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Studios. And you're listening to Live From The Path with somebody from the, Path Blue Studios, Here's Youngston. Robert? What was that? I was, here's the thing. I was caught between a I was gonna say, like, a here's Johnny,

but then that wasn't gonna work out. Yeah. Here in Johnston proper, and so I I backed out of it at the end, and then it just stunk. I couldn't You just had to kinda commit to it? I couldn't even rescue it, and so I just yeah. I had to go with it. Hey, thanks for pointing that out, Buba. You're welcome. It's what I'm here for. Alright. So here's what we got going on the show tonight. So I think we're gonna here's here's what brings you the danger right here. Is we what was it? It was a few weeks back, maybe three weeks back. It was just gonna be me and Buva. And so we thought ourselves, hey, man. No one wants to listen to that jazz. And so we skipped the show. And and I'll be doggone if that is not the circumstance in which we find ourselves in tonight. We're here again. Yeah. So, we're gonna press on with this deal. We're gonna see if the earth stays on its axis, and me and Boova are gonna try to try to walk through the, the Life From The Path program. So, if you're a normal listener to the show, you know the the kind of trouble you've gotten yourself into. So, yeah, you know, get get some coffee and some hand soap and do what you gotta do. Coffee and some hand soap? Hey. I don't I don't I don't like to tell people how to live, you know. Alright. Fair enough. Where where, where Jesus speaks, I speak. Where he doesn't say anything about coffee and hand soap, you gotta live your life. I like it. Okay.

So you've got so, Boo, if I remember correctly, we're we're gonna do some advice tonight, and you have it's not Pope style. It's stuff you gotta you're supposed to stop doing. Right? Yeah. It's it's not quite a Pope style. It's It's just something I need to stop doing because, I I realized that I'm going way beyond my means of, like, life goal planning kind of deal. Right? And so I found myself really attached to, to travel shows recently.

And, like, I think to myself, man, I'm a world traveler because I've left the country once for a month on a work trip to in which I was everything was paid for me. I did nothing but, show up. Right. And and that makes me qualified to be any kind of a world traveler anyway, which it really doesn't. Right. And so I found myself watching a bunch of travel shows recently and trying to relate to them. Like like, oh, I've been part of this? Right. Exactly. Like, trying to find myself, like, oh, if I were in Okinawa, I would definitely be doing the same thing, but I've heard of this place before. Right? Like, it's ridiculous. It's absolutely ridiculous. And so I found myself

romanticizing the fact of like me going and traveling around the world. Here's one of the biggest reasons I'm not, I need to stop doing this. I hate traveling. I hate being on planes. Like planes is one of my least favorite things on the planet Earth. Right. And I'm talking about like, man, I wanna be like a globe traveler Uh-huh. And go all over the place. I recently told someone that one of my life goals before hitting 30 is to go to all seven continents. And then I realized how dumb that was in comparison to a, everything I know about myself, and b, everything I know about God, and from the fact that I probably shouldn't be planning that far ahead and try and figure out tomorrow before I try and figure out before 30. And so I I'm it would never be me. How about, like places can you can't you make a can't you train

the Western Hemisphere? I suppose that's for the most Fly part over to the closest thing on the Eastern Hemisphere. That sounds terrible. And then train your way up. Forty five minute flights, and I'm upset. Anything it it's ridiculous. Wait. Wait. Is there a difference, though, between forty five minutes and three hours? Like, is it just the whole experience? It's the whole experience. So it's any of that, you know, the turbulence deal? Like, I so here's the deal. I'm not in any way afraid of flying. Yeah. It does I'm not afraid of it. There's no problems. I'm not worried about the plane going down. I'm I'm really not. Yeah. It's the that gut feeling again when you when you hit a bump or something like that, your stomach kinda jumps into your throat. Yeah. And all the kids love it, and that's why you go on amusement parks and rides and stuff like that. Right. I hate that. That that makes me upset, and it just is awful.

So anything that's gonna involve that, which is pretty much every flight ever, I can't stand and want to avoid. But for some reason, I have, I have thought to myself, I need to become a a world traveler where I'm gonna be doing this constantly. Even though I have absolutely no money to do this and, probably will never do it. No. You're right. That's an interesting Yeah. Was That's

interesting distinction you're making. Right. Exactly. So I realized I need to stop myself from doing these because this is this is I mean, I'm not talking about, like, I'll watch it every once in a while. Yeah. I'm talking, like, hours upon hour. Tonight alone, I watch four hours of travel shows, and it's it's not even, like, ten it's, like, 10:00 now. I don't know. That that seems a little bit normal. I read one chapter of my bible. Okay. Yeah. Okay. I see what you're getting at. So where I'm coming from is the fact that I spend so much time fantasizing about this possibility to where I'm a world traveler and, like, all these things interest me, and I wanna know more about, you know, I wanna know more about France, and I wanna know more about, the Asian countries, and I wanna know more about what it'd be like to go to Patagonia and all this stuff. Right? Like, I think that'd be an incredible experience and all this kind of stuff. But at the same point in time, like, I haven't spent any time trying to figure out what it's like to be in God's kingdom. Well, I mean, I shouldn't say any time, but I haven't spent time close to the amount of time that I do doing this than I do, read my word or praying to God or talking to people. Like, I'm not avoiding social situations, but they're definitely being avoided by the amount of time that I'm spending on this. Somewhere, there's a Patagonian man who's who's looking forward to talking to you, and you've just eliminated that ability. Well, that's possibility. That's a tough times. Alright. I don't know. I don't I don't mind I don't mind planes. I don't I mean, I get nervous just in general

Right. About traveling, for no particular reason. Right? Not particularly scared about anything. It's just it seems like something to be nervous about, and my body's like, yes. This seems right. If you are not, you should be nervous about this because people are. I'm glad you've accepted that. World traveler. Okay. Okay. And so I I just What are you gonna do on seven continents?

Like like Be there. Like, legitimately. So I I I have no plans for those continents. You're just gonna stay there? Just wanna go there and, like, experience stuff. Like, the the traveling that I've done has been mainly for work. Like, I've traveled a little bit, outside of work. Like, I've I've done some personal trips, whether it be, you know, twelve hours across the country or whether it be, you know, an hour and a half over to Omaha, or two hours over to Omaha. Like, that's that's the kind of traveling I've done. But and I enjoy that. Like, I really enjoy, going to different places, meeting new people, experiencing those things. It's a lot of fun for me, but it's not as big of a of a life thing as I'm making it seem like it should be with the amount of time that I invest in travel shows. No. No. Okay. Okay. I think I get what you're saying. So, like, I did I have we've had similar experiences. Like, I I was in The Philippines for six weeks training doing some training and stuff. And, like, at the time, it felt like it defined you. Right? Like, it had you know, like, hey. I've been to Asia.

You know? And then here's the thing that's been, two three years. It's been three years since I've been to The Philippines, and my life is no different for it. Right. Like, there's nothing about my day to day that gives a flying damn Right. That I was somewhere overseas. You know? Like, it meant it was something big there. There's certainly some stories that are associated with it. Right. But, like, it just it just doesn't really define you unless you wanna drag it out. You know? It's it's like you know what it is, Bufa? It's like going to going over season and trailing it for the rest of your life is, playing triple a ball. Right? You're gonna tell that story all the time like you're a baller. You're not a baller. You played triple a ball for a while. That's fair. You are not good enough to can go to the majors, and now you're telling that story for forty years. And I grant that it's that it's a cool part of your existence, but at some point, it stops being part of who you are, like, at, like, a year after it happens. Am I the dude that's twenty years out of high school football that's still talking about that touchdown he made once? Yeah. Oh, man. Yeah. That's you. I've been trying to avoid that, but I totally just told someone a couple weeks ago. Like, in my credentials for training, I said that I've trained on two continents. And it just it flowed out of me, and then I realized immediately how pompous the statement was and how awful and how quickly I should have taken it back. But, like, everyone accepted it, like, oh. That's the yeah. Okay. That's the problem. Right? Is that, like, it it's it seems inherently awesome or, like like, it speaks to your skills. Like, the only thing it speaks to is that someone was will like, obviously, it costs money to get somewhere, and someone looked at you and said, yeah. We'll pay that to get to send you over here. But right. But, like,

maybe it was different for you. Right? But when I'm when I was in The Philippines, I'm training the exact same thing I would have been training where in The United States, my feet just happened to be on a different continent while I'm doing it. Right. I have any special skills. I don't speak Tagalog. Like, I got there's nothing about what it is that I do Yes. That shifted substantially for having stood there except for they paid to move my pasty white behind from Iowa to the Asian continent. That's true. The only difference was my commute to work was about twenty four hours. Yeah. Yeah. That's it. So, like, there's no skill in standing somewhere else. That's really what I'm saying. Someone's willing to pay me to stand elsewhere. Please hire me. I'm well qualified. Just stand elsewhere. Alright. So we we started this out by Booba saying that he probably shouldn't watch the travel shows because he keeps fantasizing about the situation where him's he's going all over the world. But then it kinda turned around to, I need to stop being a prideful beast about the fact that I've trained in a different place. Because it's basically a company paid for me to fly over there and stand. Yeah. Alright. Fine. Yeah. And really, even the phrase, like, when someone says, hey. I'm a it it seems like a big thing to say, hey. I'm a world traveler. But really, all it means is that I have the freedoms that other people don't have to not have to be in the same place all the time. That's true. I've stood at their places. Yeah. I've had money. No. I mean, there's there's certainly people doing cool things traveling around the world. But, like, it also implies certain things about your life that you generally have the money to be a world traveler. True. You're not there's not something here that's otherwise tying you down so that you're able to travel the world. But, really, like, you didn't invent the plane that you flew on. You just handed over certain money to to be allowed to travel on something. The guy that built the plane's impressive to me. That, like It's true. Bernoulli still is impressive to me. Right?

But, like His principles are wonderful. And, like, you didn't you didn't commission the airport at which you landed at. You didn't you probably didn't learn every language you went to. You'd got in the cab that some other cab driver who got works his bones off to feed his family. He drove you to wherever you went. You didn't build a hotel. These are not all accomplishments of yours. I paid money to sit down and let someone take me somewhere and then stand there for a bit and then sit down again and take me back to where I'm from and then stand there. And you said, I've been to The Philippines. I'm

a world traveler. If you haven't noticed how cultured I am, did you see what I brought back with me? Yeah. Now hold on. Is there so take world traveling out of it. Is there are there equivalent things, like, on the domestic side or just normal life stuff where we take you take credit for something that seems like it's the big news, but really, it's, like, it's not significantly different? Whenever I have a good training class, like, I take people try and praise me for it and say that I've done such a great job because they're doing, you know, good in sales or they're doing good with customer service or, you know, whatever. And then people give me awards and stuff like this. And, ultimately, it's like, I read some stuff, and then I kinda stood in front of people and talked for a couple hours, and then they did their job. Yeah. Like, that's pretty much it. That's that's exactly what my job is. If I were to if I were to make a realistic non pompous resume, it'd be I'm okay at reading, and people listen to me when I stand in front of them, and they're getting paid to do it. And they're getting paid to do it. Yeah. And then they do their job. That's my whole resume, man. Oh, no. Here's here's the deal. In that context, though, what's interesting is that making disciples, like, the act of disciple making

actually is very much that Yep. Is is is the the biggest gap in your ability to actually make disciples is one, if you follow Jesus and then you take somebody with you, and taking someone with you is as simple as, hey, man. Do I hook up with the dude? Do I talk to him about Jesus? And do I care about him? It it it is the most, it requires very little skill. Yeah. It requires a passion for Jesus and a and a love for other people. And if you got those two things down, the level of skill that is involved in making disciples isn't that much. Because frankly, holy spirit does all all types of the work. Right? That's true. God doesn't really check our resume when it comes to to whether or not we're gonna be the one talking to somebody about him. He doesn't really check to make sure we're a good speaker. He doesn't really check to make sure we have a lot of, like, you know, charisma and all this different stuff. He's kinda like, hey. You gotta love me and know a little bit. Yeah. And then let me talk through that. Yeah. Oh, man. So so Why are we having so much trouble with this then? Because

I think we don't get it. Right? I think we're waiting for a lot of times, we're well, one okay. I'm gonna say the harsh thing off the bat. Yeah. One is is that I I I think we don't, we're actually not pursuing Jesus on our own. And so so if you're not pursuing Jesus on your own, it becomes difficult for you to then talk to someone about pursuing Jesus. And, frankly, then then you have to have methods. You have to have, you have to have pamphlets. You have to have, some programming. You have to have kind of a layout and outline of things you're gonna do. It's like, here's your 12 steps to making disciples, and you need that because you actually don't know Jesus all that well that you can sit down and talk to someone about him without having to have a program about it. And so that that's one of the biggest gaps is that, as you're if you're if you're personally following Jesus, it it takes no effort to to bring somebody with you. In fact, you want to. You're like, hey. I'm going anyway. Hey, man. I love you. You wanna come along? Because I'm following Jesus. You in? You know? And and, like, it's not a making disciples is not a burden,

and frankly, it's not difficult. All you're doing is introducing people to Jesus. Where the trouble comes in is when you don't know Jesus. When you don't know Jesus and you don't know who you're introducing people to, there's things that are coming out your mouth because it's in the pamphlet, and you're like, I half believe that, but I'm not sure. I don't have good stories about him answering prayer in my life. I don't know if I've completely changed. I keep looking at the thing on the computer. And, like, whatever all this business is that you're involved in. And, like, it's it's really, we are we stink at being disciples of Jesus Christ, and so we have trouble making disciples of Jesus Christ. That's really your barrier. That's kinda interesting because, so I took I took a year long discipleship class. It would have been two years ago now. It was it was a whole year. We didn't talk about discipleship until about month 10. Uh-huh. Maybe month like, I think it was the last two months we really got into, here's your community. Here's how you speak to them. Yeah. The first ten months of it was building our relationship with Christ. Yeah. And it didn't make sense to me, but now it definitely does. Like, I needed to I need to have that foundation before I was able to even walk out and talk to anybody. And, ultimately, I didn't need to go through a year long class that was all these different, modes of communication and possibilities and ways to to present yourself and things like that. It's make sure you you know how to present yourself in front of your lord,

and then just make sure you're doing that, and then people will watch and see that. And then they will ask about that, or they will inquire about that, or they'll see what you're doing, and then that will interest them. Yeah. That's one of the most powerful pieces of discipleship I've ever seen is if you love Jesus, if you live that out, and then you love his people, people are naturally gonna go, hey, man. What's that about? Yeah. You're kinda weird in that situation. Why are you loving them that way? That dude just did this to you, or that gal just did this to you. Why are you loving them? It's like, oh, what's funny you should ask that. Let me tell you about my my Lord Jesus. Yeah. Jesus is he tells me to do. Like, he he you you don't need separate, separate things. He's his own method. Yeah. The presence of the Lord and savior is sufficient for whatever character you're gonna run into. Well, fair enough. I guess we kinda just made discipleship easy. We it it it is easy. I think that's that's, again, the gap is, like, we, we look for for clever ways to do something. We we we look to, hey. You gotta change your personality. Hey. You gotta, here's how to deal with 10 different types of people. And look look biblically of the wide array of folks that Jesus is interacting with, even with his own disciples. Right? Mhmm. He's he it's not like he employed different things for different guys. That's true. He just can't say the same. He was just being Jesus

around folk, and then that it seems to be its own compelling, nature. And so I think that's the thing is, like, we we approach it, we approach it oddly, but I I think the reason that we do that, though, is is to be honest, we're just we're not pursuing Jesus on our own. Yeah. And so it seems like something that we have to learn. And here's here's if I'm gonna make a qualification, it's gonna be this, is that I think, the distinction is more if you are actively and faithfully

pursuing Jesus, not if you've reached some sort of apex of you know absolutely everything there is to know. Right. And, like, I the reason this is kinda dashing around my mind is because I I I had said something What was you know, yesterday when I talked about, like, we have trouble we have trouble talking to people about Jesus because we don't know him. And, like, you're never gonna know God completely. Right? Nature of God is that you will probably not know him completely. Right. But I would say a person who just met Jesus and is pursuing him passionately will be just as effective as someone that's known him for ten years. As long as you are pursuing him,

honestly and rightly, then I I think you can make disciples because because the deal is is, like, you're just pursuing him, and then you're inviting people to come along. That's what discipleship looks like. Yeah. There's not, it doesn't have to be, hey. I I'm at a certain level, and now I'm qualified to go talk to people. Just pursue him faithfully. Don't don't have things flying out your mouth that you don't know are true. Look for the things look for Jesus. Find him in scripture, and then share that with other people, and you're gonna be fine. Yeah. But I think that's our distinction. We're actually we don't know how to pursue Jesus, and, we perhaps well, especially when it comes to discipleship, we are trying to find methods within the church to help us to make disciples,

whereas natural pursuit of Jesus actually guides people to want to make disciples, and they just simply invite people along to things that they're doing. Well, there you go. There's the easy deal. Yeah. You wanna learn how to go to side with people? Go love Jesus. Pursue him, and it'll happen. Yeah. Call it call it, call it the, the come and see. Right? I mean, that's that's the Jesus approach. Right? I got something going on. Why don't you come and check it out? There you go. I'm going. You going? Done. Discipleship. Cool. Discipleship one zero one. I like it. Nick Harris, what are your thoughts? Same thing. I feel the same way. You gotta seek the kingdom first, and then you get the riches later here and in the next life. So, you know, I feel the same way. Yeah. I like it. Cool. Making disciples. Alright. What was that? Hold on. I saw something before we get to some advice. What did I read? Oh, yeah. Hey. Did you vet out this article before you read through it? I scanned it. Oh. And so, unfortunately, Buva, this is gonna follow this is gonna fall mainly on you. There was an article in Relevant Magazine about 20 things every 20 should know how to do. Oh, no. And so I'm not I'm not a 20.

Nick Harrison, are you a 20? Not even Nick Harrison not 20 either. That's what thought. Alright, Bubba. This is on you. Alright, man. I guess we'll see. But Harrison and might be a little bit past, but we'll see if this applies. But this is a 20 things every 20 something should know how to do. Alright, Bubba. We're gonna see how Man, I'm gonna be I'm gonna fail this list. Just Alright. Number one, make

a great breakfast. Oh, yes. You should be able to craft a great meal for any occasion, but this is the most important meal of the day. Use real butter, large eggs, fresh mushrooms, cheese, whatever, but you know the ins and outs and invite a lot of people over to eat it with you regularly. I don't think I invite a lot of people over for breakfast regularly. Hey, man. That's a weird that's a weird time to invite people to your place. Who comes over for breakfast? Yeah. I wasn't there the night before. Yeah. You go out for breakfast. You don't you don't home cook breakfast. I've ever, in any situation my entire life, had I have been invited to or have invited anyone to a breakfast at my house. That's that's weird, isn't it? Yeah. Okay. Fine. I agree, well, though, with the fact that you should be able to make yourself breakfast. All the people around me that are my age, all of them say, oh, man. Skipped breakfast this morning. I didn't have Yeah. I'm like, you need to wake up ten minutes earlier, make yourself a couple scrambled eggs or a protein shake, and that way you don't look like a dead zombie right now. I agree. Breakfast. Okay. Number one. Done. You're in. Yeah. Invite people over for breakfast. I'm a It's creepy. I'm a do that. You're don't invite me over for breakfast. Yeah. Well, maybe not you. Cool. Okay. Alright.

Someone try that. It doesn't have to be us here. If you one of your guys are listening, maybe try try and invite someone over. Maybe you've done it. Hey. In fact, shoot me an email or hit us up on the Facebook or Twitter. I'm just interested in what that looks and what time does it happen. Because like, maybe it's just how I do breakfast, but like, I wake up and I I I eat quickly Right. And then I leave if I eat at all. I don't get up with time, get myself looking like I should have folk over, prepare a meal, and then have people that to distribute it to. That just sounds stressful. That you gotta get up at, 05:30

to get that kind of thing done. That I still gotta go to work, man. I can't have Right. Because here's the deal. If I wanna invite someone over, well, you wanna have time to chat with them and stuff, but, like, I got time for your Chatty Cathy. I gotta get into work. What about, like, a Saturday breakfast, though? Like, hey, you had we we hung out this weekend. Let's you wanna come over to my place for a Saturday breakfast? What would you boo boo, what would you make? What would I make for a sat oh, dude, do eggs and bacon. That it'd ask me something hearty on a Saturday breakfast. You can't do you can't do something small. It's I'd make either, like, a breakfast casserole Uh-huh. Or I'd do just, like, straight up eggs, bacon, and, like, you know, sausage, hash browns, all that good stuff. Harris, you cook a fancy breakfast?

I've been known to whip some up. You put what what what what do you do? Like, pastries, cinnamon rolls, or or bacon? What what do you something hearty? What do do? I mean, bacon,

sausage, eggs. Yep. The works, Croissants. I mean Hey, man. I feel like We're going to Harrisonburg. I I'm not making the croissants. I got I can do hash browns sometimes.

Hey, man. Hash browns are tough. That's true. I can't cook hash browns to save my life. I don't they don't get crispy. You know what I like? I like greasy truck stop hash browns. Yeah. And I try to make them at home, but I can't pull that stuff off. That's the truth. They're never nearly as good as as Ethel at the at the gas or at the at the gas stop. Yeah. Dang. Alright. Alright. Here we go. Number two, argue kindly. Yeah. In an increasing literate, you'll be better for it. Learn how to have your own opinions and how to put them firmly and politely in a way that invites spirited conversation. Yes.

Now, I feel like When want to. What? You want to or you're capable of? No. When I want to. If it's a certain situation where I have no intentions of doing a kind argument, and it's gonna be the full beast argument Yeah. I can do that. Okay. But sometimes if it has to be like a a delicate situation, I could do it. I feel like I can't do that, but it's not but it's not the kindly part. I just I tend people to stop talking after I say things. Like, I'm not rude about it, but I think I'm overly verbose. I

talk for a long time and then no one then no one has anything else to talk about. I have been on a radio show with you for about six years now and I would agree with that statement entirely. Yeah. I gotta learn. I I'm not much of a conversationalist. I gotta change my ways. Alright. Well, I'm not 20. It's not my problem. Three. Did you have this mastered in your twenties? No. I've gotten better over time, unfortunately.

Three, hold a conversation with someone of any age. Yeah. You can do that? Yeah. Okay. I here's the deals. I I'm not very I'm not, I can do that, but I'm not great at it. I have kid and old people mode,

and it's sometimes not very, it stops treating them like a people and they become cartoon characters. Oh. So you talk to maybe talk to the kids or or kinda just very cartoonized, and then to the old people, you sound like you're talking to an old whippersnapper. When it when it comes to the old folks, I I use phrases like colostomy bag, like, three times more often than I would in normal conversation. Like, I just assume I know what their interests are. I mean, it's it's ridiculous.

There's a certain level of catering to your audience, I guess. But I feel like using colostomy bag in any situation besides a medical one is not necessary. Hey. Do you sit and pee or do you sit and pee? Like, that's that's what I'm saying. No. You need to stop trying to relate to these people. They do not need to be related to. Relate to the fact that they were your age once. That's all you need to do. That's what I'm saying. I'm awkward in that regard. Okay. Fair enough. Number four, parallel park. Depends on okay. So it depends on the vehicle. My dad taught me how to do it in a 15 passenger van, and so surprisingly enough, anything smaller, I'm terrible at. Oh, okay. I can do if you give me a van right now, can parallel park it. But like my little Chrysler, I have a lot of difficulty with Tricky. Okay. Okay. Number five, defend your media choices.

The media hold on. Whether you like Kendrick, Kings of Leon, or Kesha should be able to articulate why. The media we consume affects us, and you should be able to explain to yourself why you're listening, watching, and reading the things that you are. Does this does this occur to you? This is not happening I to don't think I've ever had to defend my I mean, I think I've had to defend my choices against certain types of media, like Why aren't you listening and watching this? To that. Like, I I cannot stand country music Yeah. With a fiery passion. And the people that love country music are normally the ones that are willing to get in a non kindly argument with me about country music and my my hatred for it. Right. And so I find myself having to defend that more often than I defend my musical choices.

Okay. No. That makes sense. Versus against. Yeah. I don't think I've ever had to defend my media choices. Maybe in here ever like, maybe I've watched something folks like, hey, man. You sure you'd be taking that in? But, like, very rarely, but, like, it happens. I suppose that's a valid point from a from like a is that the right thing to put in your into your Yeah. Your mind thing. Yeah. I mean, I've had that conversation, but I was thinking more from the perspective of like your likes and dislikes. Here's the thing though. It's like it's that always turns into an ultra fairsical conversation. Because the truth is, it's like nothing that is otherwise is not a worship tune

can like, you're gonna it'll be how do are you why are you listening to the, you know, the Bob Seger album? Right. How many times was Jesus' name said in that song? That's what I thought fire leaking about no Jesus Christ. Put you in the lake of fire. You don't love him. Hey, man. That just tell people you listen to instrumentals. Yeah. But Jesus don't need no bass. Jesus don't need no bass. You don't hear no bass liar going on in the Psalms. The Psalms says I play the high tenor.

Alright. Six, limit your online life. Oh, I'm terrible. This cannot be overemphasized. If you find most of your free time spent on the Internet, it's time to make some choices. If you're checking your phone at every awkward pause, delete that Facebook app. I'm like a 13 year old girl trying to check her Myspace when it comes to to anything online. Like, I am all over it. I have a Twitter that I don't use Yeah. But I still check it. Like, I've I've never used I think I've tweeted maybe five things in my entire time having a Twitter account. Yeah. I check it every once in a while. There's nothing there, but I do it anyway. What do do? My Instagram and my I have Instagram, I have Facebook, I have Twitter, and I use two of them, but check all of the constants. So you have media, but you don't social on it? Facebook, I try not to be overly present just because I've been overly present before. Yeah. Like at one point in time, I was posting every day and all over the place, I commented on every post I saw, and then it kinda got overwhelming to where I realized that I was

unnecessarily present in everyone's media life. Right. And and started kind of, you know, looking from afar, if you will. Yeah. And then I kinda do the same thing on the Instagram. Like, I I do more of my Instagram is interests than it is social perspective.

Like, I have a buddy and I, we we really are getting into doing actual types of barbecue, like really getting into, like, smoking different types of barbecue and stuff like that. Okay. Yep. And so I follow certain Instagram

places that are that have to do with barbecue. And so it's not from the perspective of, like, a gluttony thing where I'm always looking to eat and stuff like that. It's more from the perspective of, you know, what they do with that. I'd like to look into that and see if I can do that myself. Right. That is more of my Instagram, but Facebook, yeah, it was definitely a problem at one point in time. So, I mean, I suppose I could say I've gotten better than I was in my early twenties, but I've definitely got a lot of room to work on it. Mhmm. That's where I'm at with Why do I feel like yeah. I feel like I tagged you on something on Twitter. It had to do with your feet. You probably have. Yes. I remember that because no one tags me in anything on Twitter. Hold on a second. The only Twitter follow that I've well, excuse me. The only Twitter activity I've ever had was the live from the Path Twitter.

Okay. Yeah. That sounds right. I feel like we, oh, I don't remember what it was, but it had something to do with, like, your foot something and then some podiatrist in Canada. Yes. Yeah. That's right. What was that though? It was the the foot was it the foot doctor or the the

oh. It was a podiatrist. Dang it. I don't remember what it was, but I feel like it I thought it was called the foot doctor or something. Whatever. Yeah. No. I remember what you're about. It seemed funny. That you tagged me in something that actually didn't have anything to do with feet, and then a podiatrist comments on it? Yeah. Or retweets it or something? Yeah. Like like a podiatrist in Canada or something. Hey, man. Maybe podiatrists in Canada don't have a lot to do. Okay. They've searched the Twitter. Alright. Here we go. Number seven. Sorry. We're talking about the, 20 things every 20 something should know how to do. This one was approach a stranger,

whether it's for directions, a favor, or even just to pass the time on an airplane, knowing how to strike up a conversation on a plane without being a Pharisee. Is that you? Yes. Absolutely. Is this list expecting everyone to be an extrovert and that's how you get through your twenties? Yeah. Yeah. This seems like a Yeah. Like if you can't talk to people, you therefore can't leave your twenties successfully?

Yeah. That seems like what it is. Like I feel like there's plenty of people that could live a very closed in life and have two or three good friends and then not need to reach out to a bunch of different people, and they made it through their twenties better than than most of the extroverts I know. I hear you. I've never asked for directions. My phone oh, my phone does that. Yeah. I was gonna say, you're living in an archaic world where we need that. What has that done to our society that you don't have to you you know when there's a stop and ask for directions because we just get them our sales? It's it's I don't think it's still anything to our society. Maybe it's ruining it. Ah, okay. Here's the deal. Maybe it's it's ruining our society. I don't think it's the fact that we have GPS It's ruined it. Oh, whatever.

I'm feeling distant from people. Texting. If there's any social perspective that has ruined our society, it's texting. Yeah. It's not ruined. Alright. Here we go. Eight, stand up for yourself. Whether it's your boss shooting down an idea before you've explained it or a guy shouting rude comments as you're walking by. I'm being negatively catcalled on my Boot, hate your posture. You

walk like a doofus. Yeah. People are cruel. Defend yourself? What what is that? Hold on. Stand up for yourself. Like, what's the right reaction there? Do I need to stand up for myself? No. I do not walk like a doofus The right reaction is to be able to maturely go, alright. That dude has more time on his hands than he needs to. Yeah. Sweet. And then keep walking down the road. Yeah. You don't need to hazard it. We let that go. It's all we we have developed this whole thing where if you don't stand up for yourself, you're a wuss. And then you're inviting yourself to be made fun of more. No. You're not. No. Just you don't have to say anything if somebody yells at you. Right. Like Just look at them and just wave at them. Love them on love on them for Jesus if you need to, I guess. If somebody stops you and has to have an angry conversation with you, can freak him out a little bit by loving on him, but Yeah. Now, here's the things. Like, what are one the things you have to be careful with is how much you validate someone's influence on your life. Right. Yes. Right? Hey, you walk like a doofus. Hey, I've decided to engage in that. You've given that man permission to influence your life. Let him go. Let him go. And and you

don't have to deal with it as if it is something that is defensible. Right? If it is a bit of reality that needs where you need to set the record straight. If it's obviously not true, you can just let that go. There's no reason to fight. What are you fighting a lie at the at at its base nature? If someone says something about you that is true and it is offensive, your right reaction is to change your ways so that they can't so it's not true anymore. If someone says something about you that is a lie and is offensive, your right reaction is to not validate it. And and here's the deal. So from a slightly less good natured perspective, if you wanna make somebody mad that's trying to, like, make fun of you or or or make you need to stand up yourself, don't say anything. Because then they'll start getting upset that you're not reacting in any way to their their their yelling at you or something like that. I've seen more people get upset because I don't react than when I do react. Yeah. The It's actually kinda funny. Yeah. The their point I mean, that's the point. Right? You say something to someone, your attempt is to control them in some way or If I say this, you will react in x y. I own you. In that moment, I own your reactions. I own, you know, what you think of yourself, whatever it is. Right? And so the extent that you do not react, all you've said to them is, hey, I caught your comment. You don't own me. You said something I didn't really care about. Now you yeah. Now you're just a guy talking out into the air. You look silly. Yeah. Just wave back at him. Thanks, bro. Yeah.

Say I was wrong. I think that's something that's not just a problem for 20 30 year old. I think that's everybody. It says, whatever it is, you should always be looking for where you might have messed up. I was wrong is a magical little sentence that diffuses conflict and brings peace to any situation. You should have it at the top of your go to phrases. I well, I don't know just about the phrase itself, but, yeah, agree. I think being able to admit that you're wrong is a huge thing. Mhmm. I think that

that some sometimes we can get incredibly bullheaded about our own opinions, our own actions, and what we do, and and I think sometimes even though we completely understand that we have screwed up, we're just awful at saying it. And I think I would agree with that entirely. I think that it's an incredibly powerful thing to be able to go, yeah, you're absolutely right. I totally screwed that one. Yeah. Thank you for thank you for calling me out of that. And don't do it just so, so you can get them off your back, but do it from the perspective of, you know, it's part of, it's part of being humble to be able to go, you know, yeah, I I screwed that one up. Yeah. Let let's get that taken care of. Couldn't have gone worse? Yeah. You know more about this than I do. Can you tell me what I did wrong, and let's let's work through it. Yeah. There's a there's a there's a compelling thing about dealing with reality. Right? Yeah. Like, if something occurs and you someone brings something up and says, hey, this this got really screwed up, and then you look at it, you realize you were the person that screwed it up, I mean, to what gain are you gonna have by trying to act like those things weren't the things?

Like, then you're having to carry on some sort of deceit, and then you're reacting to it, and you're speaking to it, and you're trying to convince you're basically, you're trying to spend your time deceiving someone else. And, like, broad setting the world straight is just not gonna happen with you ignoring reality. So if you screwed up, you just say, oh, yeah. You know what? I really screwed that up fierce, didn't I? Yep. It's rough times. How do we fix it? Yeah. And people have more respect for you when you do it. Yeah. Yeah. And here's the deal. Maybe the consequences are or that maybe it's not your job and they fire you. Okay. I mean, here's the deal. That was your reality. Right. You might as well just deal with reality. I'd like a lot of times, people spend trying to balance things that just simply aren't true,

and trying to maintain relationships on false premises and circumstances on false premises, and like, it it just simply isn't worth the energy associated with it. Just call things for what they are and let the chips fall where they may, and then react to those. At least, you know, you're dealing with real things as opposed to like trying to constantly guess when a when something's gonna fall or when they're gonna figure you out or whatever. Like, that's just this is no way to live. It's no way to live. Agreed. Tan, brew a great cup of coffee or tea. Yes. Look, once and for all, turning on the coffee maker or brewing a pot of coffee is totally fine, but you should also be aware how to make a perfect cup of coffee or tea for yourself, for your friends. Do a little reading. Perfect your technique. It's a skill you'll be glad you have forever. I feel like I've never taken it to that extent where I've perfected my technique. No. This is But I feel like I can make a cup of joe that someone gonna spit out. This is like the introvert hipster's guide to being the person. Make sure you can trim up your own beard. Yeah. That's an x, isn't it? That's 11. Yeah. Yeah. Know know how much beard oil is too much.

Love urban hipster. Be able to sense the differences between your whiskeys. Here's the thing. It's like, I've only once ever said, hey, that coffee's really good. And it happened at the Iowa Event Center. We were broadcasting from, like, some sort of pro life thing, and and, like, the Iowa Event Center was serving coffee. And that's the first time I ever had coffee, I'm like, hey, man. That's pretty good. That's some good Joe. Every other every other coffee I've ever had, doesn't matter, like, strong,

gas station, truck stop, high end restaurant, I thought, you know That's coffee. That's coffee. That'll be fine. And so, like, I could not tell you a great I I got my wife got me a French press for Christmas. And I tried it and I drank it and I thought, tastes like coffee.

Then Maybe you maybe you shouldn't have made it out of your twenties then if you can't perfect your cup of joe. Yeah. Like, I guess I don't know the distinction here. I I and I I've drinking a ton of tea. I've done loose leaf. I've done the the the the dabbles. The dabbles? Yeah. You know, where where you know, like the Liptons where it comes in the bag. Oh, gotcha. I've poured loose leaf into a bag and then put that in there and like Hey, man. That's high society right there. Yeah. That's alright. It's straight up alright. I I was I was brewing, chicory for a while, like tea. You can put chicory in there. And, but anyway, I you know, it's it was tea. Yeah. I'm I'm where did this article come from? That's Relevant Magazine. Oh, there we go. Alright. What's number 11? Tip generously.

Make it what's what's what's just an extra buck or 2 to you can complete, completely make your server's day? Make it a habit to tip generously, and if you're feeling daring, write a brief thank you note on your check. If you're feeling daring, write a brief thank you note. Yeah. Hey, sit sit still, Marge. I'm feeling bold. Give me a sec. Hey, if you wanna be bold, put your name and number on a on a on a ticket and give it to somebody. That's bold.

Why would It's weird. Because you wanna date them or you wanna done that before and it's worked out to a date, but it's never worked further than the one date. Yeah. But that may be just me, not the not the mode of communication. You can yeah. But you connected off a gimmick. You're forever gonna be the gimmick, man. Valid point. Although Hey, I don't do that anymore. We're good. Oh, yeah. Okay. Okay. 12, maintain a mentor.

Your twenties are a great time to invest in a mentor. Fight I think it's the other way around. Find someone you want to be like, be it your pastor, a friend, or even a peer, and commit to meeting with them regularly. It takes a little humility and a lot of dedication, but there's no ceiling to the value it will add to your life. I like your comment about flipping around. Are you talking about being a mentor? A couple yeah. A couple of things. One, you you're investing in a mentor. It's it's probably the opposite. They're probably investing in you. Okay. Gotcha. And I would actually say by the time you're I would say mid to late twenties,

assuming, you know, things are otherwise firing on most cylinders, I would say you're both. Oh, absolutely. I would say you need to start there's the age of people that you can influence is still still great to influence. Oh, absolutely. And then you need to be hanging around people that that are getting it right. I actually had this conversation with someone a couple weeks ago. I was telling them about some of the stuff that, you know, we on the show have gotten involved in, then we as a church have gotten involved in, and he started commenting on the fact he was like, oh, man, you know, that's that you're like the most responsible 24 year old I've ever met. I said, first off, you do not wanna make that comment, because you don't know the rest of the world or my life. You just know these little parts you've heard. So Yeah. Don't make that comment off what you know right now. Second off, it makes me sad that that that that's the reaction, is a 20 that's willing to do something beyond, take care of himself and try and figure out what what he's gonna do, is enough to make, someone warrant, oh, man, you're a you're a great person. Yeah. There should be, I mean, droves of 20 that are constantly trying to get involved in stuff, because a lot of us don't have kids, which means we have a ridiculous amount of our time time to our hands Yeah. To do something constructive. Like, if you're not if you're not currently working two jobs and in school,

and you have don't have kids and you're 20, you know you've spent way too much time on the Internet this last week. And you and I both know that there's plenty of time that you could have been doing going out and mentoring someone. Finding something that's a cause in this world to get involved in. Whether that be, you know, taking care of homeless people, whether that be going out and and working with kids, or or taking care of the elderly. Whatever it is, you have plenty of time to do that. Yeah. We have too many 30 and 40 that are, yeah, in families have kids that sacrifice time with their kids to go spend time with other people, when we have so many 20 that are doing absolutely nothing with their time, but but figuring out how how to make a better cup of coffee, when they could have very easily been making an average cup of coffee for 20 people outside of a bar Yeah. And helping them get home. Yeah. It just makes me sad. So I would disagree with this. I think, yes, it's a good thing to have a mentor, but I think it's a better thing to go out and find a cause that means something to you and means something to somebody else. Yeah. I I mean, I would say it's both. I mean, the truth is is like it's

having a having a mentor is what helps you to move positively. Right? Means that have to have something to help aim towards. Yeah. I I I'm not gonna limit my growth by wherever I've come from. It it allows me to keep moving forward. And and frankly, finding something like that is difficult. Yeah.

And that's that's actually the problem. Right? It's like if you don't start if you don't start mentoring people, like, we don't have people that can mentor others. Right? You you get old enough and you got a generation full of people who could use some help and nobody's prepared for anything. They never they never learned it from anybody else, and they're never doing it. It's the same discipleship problem. Yep. We are short on on people that can adequately mentor folks. But, like, again, back to the discipleship discussion, is, when you think mentor, don't overload that thing. Like,

I like, I've had relationships like this, and, like, it has never been any more complicated than, hey, let's meet up for some breakfast. Hey, what are you reading? I might have a few things that I'm reading that I might share with somebody. I might just be like, hey, how are things going? And I I'll I'll pray for those guys and that's I mean, that's it. Like, it's it's time. I want to spend I'll spend time with people and I can't I can't I don't have a whole life to offer them. Right? But but the outpouring of the rest of my life becomes part of those conversations. Wife's, kids, jobs, like, these are things that otherwise be part of a of a mentoring type of relationship, and like those are great. They're absolutely great, and it doesn't all it is is is is time. And it says this matters to me. This person matters to me. I'll we'll make time to do it. One Yeah. Of the one of the best ways that I've heard it put, and and don't get stuck on the numbers by any mean, but I've heard, you know, find somebody ten years younger than you. Find some and spend time with that person and help them. Find someone at your level.

Figure out figure out a couple relationships where they're at the same kind of level that you are, so you can connect with them and have some relevance with them at the same time. Yep. And then find somebody ten years older than you. Watch them. Figure out what's going on. Go to dinner with them and their family. Watch them with their kids. Just just figure out, hey, how is that dude living his life right now? Yeah. Like, that dude loves Jesus, and he loves his kids, and he loves his wife. I'm just gonna watch him. I'm gonna go hang out with him, and I don't not be creepy about it. Just go and hang out with the dude. Spend a night with him or or, you know, figuring out, you know, what are you doing, with you with your family, with your kids, and that's it. That's the whole deal. Yeah. And it doesn't have to be, like you said, it doesn't have to be, hey, sit down in in front of a chalkboard, teach me your ways. It's just, let me watch the way that person lives. Yeah. And and what's their what's their relationship with Christ look like? What's their relationship with their wife? What's their relationship with their kids? What's their community look like? Because I wanna look more like that. I wanna look more like Jesus, and that dude currently looks more like Jesus. That's all that matters. Yeah. Yep. Agreed. I agree with that too.

Like, I mean, like, it's all like, I I consider myself to always need a mentor, like, no matter what age I am, like because I feel like you won't even really understand life until you really hit 30 and to begin with. Right. You know, like, that's when life really starts. Like, I mean, I consider myself like, look at myself, like, still feel 18 and so think I turned 30. So Right. You know, I know I need a mentor, you know, like That's And I got real responsibilities.

Right. I gotta really take care of the family and the kids and and, you know, like, working. So I know Absolutely. I understand. But in the inside, I still feel like a kid with bills. You know? Like Yeah. I think that's the day, like, mentor is so strong because when you think about it, like, can be a better mentor than Jesus? Right. You know? So at the end of the day, who is Jesus' mentor?

Well Joseph. Yeah. That's interesting. I guess I never thought about that. Yeah. Like, so if Joseph was Jesus' mentor, like, a lot of people don't really pay attention to Joseph, and and why God really picked him to be the guy to mentor Jesus. Yeah. If Jesus didn't see Joseph doing the things that he did,

then he could've took a whole another route in life. Yeah. That's true. We don't really hear much about Jesus from the the the one to the 30 section. And I mean, that that was Joseph in front of him, and then learning in the synagogues that there are dudes in front of him. So yeah. I'd agree with that. It's it's a good thought, though, too, is is recognizing when you think of the role that, that fathers can can play in lives, whether whether for for sons or daughters. And when that's when that's missing, like, the the opportunity for mentorship and stuff is even stronger. Right? Is to and that's where some of the gaps that we see with folks, and that's why, frankly, I I I know it's hard fellas, when you get to a certain age and you got your kids and you got responsibilities and maybe you got church stuff or whatever, you feel like you're completely tied up, but I'll but

you gotta try to find time to be that for somebody. Yeah. And and just know that, like, this doesn't mean that you're committed and for to have these have people live at your place and be a taxi service for them. All you're saying is is that, like, somebody means something to me, I have I can make time to be with folks and provide some sort of relationship for them, and you don't have to be overly wise, and you don't have to have them like, there's guys here's the one of the things that always feels like a gap to me is like, there's all these. I I watch other some pastors speak and there's there's always like these 50, 60 year old pastors, and these guys have got stories. I mean, crazy stories all the time. There's not a there's not a, like, sermon that goes by or a talk they ever have, and they got like 10 stories that have come from their lives and they're like, they're right on. They're perfect. And I look around, I'm like, I don't have any stories, man. I don't have any stories and I and it makes me feel like, hey, I'm inadequate for this thing. But the truth is is that like, I mean, that's cool that they got stories. But the truth is like mentorship seem comes with the same thing. You you you think someone has to have like, bunch of wisdom or that you have to be particularly attuned for mentorship type of stuff. But it's it's like, you just gotta be there. That's what it is. It's just presence, man. Are you there and do you care? And if you can nail those two things, like, as long as you're following Jesus, it'll be easy to take somebody with you. Yeah. Exactly. You know, part of being a Jesus follower is understanding the fact that your perfection is not what gets people to Jesus. Like, you will never be a a good enough at anything to be someone that's gonna bring somebody to Christ. Your job is to be honest about your relationship with Jesus, following after him, and let him shine through the stuff you're not good at. Yeah. That's it. Yep. Alright. Holy holy k. This is taking longer than thought. But but 13, bite your tongue. Know how to pick your battles. It's okay for you to be right without getting everyone to admit you're right. It's okay for you to be offended by something without everyone knowing you're offended. Understand me, you should go to bat for what you're thinking and when you can let it go. God is working on this with me. Progress? Yes. I I'm not there yet, but but God's

definitely showing me that that's a problem, that that I have too much pride and I need to get rid of it. Alright. That's fair. 14, stay well rested. Late nights will come, but our generation has forgotten the value in a good night's sleep. Push yourself to go to bed earlier. Use your downtime wisely. Resting is just as important as being productive. In fact, you'll be more productive if you are resting well and often. I'm gonna say that I'm working on this, and I mean I'm working on this, and like I started like four days ago. Uh-huh. Okay. That's it. Like, need to get more than four hours of sleep, and so I decided to start having a rule where I turn off my electronics,

as close to an hour before I plan on going to bed as I can Uh-huh. And pick it up either my bible or another book and start reading. Okay. And then just disconnect and connect into a book. Yeah. It's it's working, but it's it's been difficult. Yeah. Yeah. That's good stuff. Yep. But I'm I still have six years to get this down, because I'm not 25 yet. So I I still have time to to get to get this down.

Is that the right way to take that, or is that a procrastinator's way to take Yeah. That's a procrastinator's way to take it. Alright. Fine. Yeah. I'm sorry. That's not how it worked, but we Yeah. I'm trying. You working, though, man. It's a start. That's the truth. 15, respond to criticism. Defending yourself against criticism is easy. Graciously accepting it is harder, but the improvements it can make in your life and work are wild. I don't know if they're wild. That seems a bit oversold. I've had to get good at this in my job as as a trainer. Part of my job is to

to actually I open myself to feedback, anonymous feedback, every class that I train. It's part of our infrastructure. We get we get feedback from our agents or our trainees on how we did, and it is it is completely unadulterated or or unfiltered feedback. And so I have to sift through that, and if somebody hated me, they'll tell me. And I have to I have to figure out how to take that and respond to it correctly. And I've been a trainer for about three and a half years, and I didn't I didn't start getting good at this until about six months ago. Now, would you say that the improvements that made in your life are wild?

Not in my job, but it's definitely taken, it's it's something that I've built up in the work environment that I've been able to translate slightly to my personal life, not like a lot to where I'd say it's a wild transformation, but it's there.

I'm just trying to find the right way to understand this wild. Yeah. Think overselling the the concept of of being able to Hey. Your criticism has wildly improved my life. No. I don't think I've ever said that to anybody. Yeah. Remember that criticism usually isn't meant to be a personal attack. That's actually not true.

It is most certainly personal. Yes. It's it's If you can learn to take it in the spirit it is offered, people have fewer things to criticize you about in the future. I think that the the distinction here is is to do you trust where the criticism coming from? Do you trust who it's coming from? And regardless of what it is, if you trust who it is, then you should then you should take it in. If it's a destructive person, then what they think, you know, rightfully becomes irrelevant. Right. The problem is is if you're you're a bit of a douche yourself, you're not gonna be able to make that distinction well, and then you're then you're only just gonna trust people that say good things about you. That's why that you the community is a better filter for that Yeah. Thing. I think a better skill to have leaving your twenties would be to be able to vet out the criticism that you get Yeah. And find the the important nugget that you could take and improve Actually, I I that happens to me at times when my wife has said something to me and, like, I've I'll ask some fellows around say, hey, man. I'd like

my wife may have said the following about me. And then then, like, sometimes we'll be like, oh, man. Maybe she's just having a rough spot or sometimes they'll go, yeah, man, that's you to a t. That's exactly You need to stop acting like that. I'm like, well, crap. Okay. Thanks, boys. And then I go home and I say, yeah, you're right about that. Right on. I I talk to the dudes. It does. They agree with you. Yeah. I plan to be wildly transformed from here forward. 16,

write a cover letter. Filling out an application is a pretty simple process, but in all likelihood, the job you really want is going to take more than a list of references and previous employers. Cover letters require some effort, but it can be the difference between don't call us, we'll call you, and when can you start. I've never written a cover letter in my life. I was gonna say, I I my resume, like, I've had I learned very quickly on that that my resume doesn't need to be just for my eyes only. Mhmm. And I need to get as many people as possible to tell me that it sucks Yeah. Until those people stop saying it sucks Yeah. Start telling me it's getting better. That's the more important thing that I've ever had. I've never had a single person go, hey, man. That resume is looking crisp. Make sure you got that cover letter though. Yeah. That's gonna be the the make it or break it deal. My experience is is actually most hiring folks don't read it.

Yeah. Like And I've I I do hiring sometimes. I've never once read a cover letter. Yeah. Yeah. The only time I have, it ended up turning out for the for the worst. Yeah. So so like and here's the deal. Take take this for take this for what it's worth because this probably just falls into the bin opinion category. But like your resume needs to be sufficient enough that I don't automatically disqualify you from the job. Past that, I I really care what I'm talking to you about. Your resume is not as relevant to me for the types of job that I would be involved hiring for. What I will say, and I would agree with that, what I will say is I think one one resume thing that I've taken that's helped me quite a bit, you should not submit the same resume every time you apply for a job.

It should be in some way tailored to what that job is looking for. Right. Whether that be switching around your bullet points to where your most important things that have to do with what they're looking for, like the like the job or the skills requirements or, you know, what what you will you be doing on the job. You need to tailor your bullets or whatever you wanted to look at it in your formatting on your resume. You need to tailor it to be, well, this is how I show that. This is how I show that. Those are the most important pieces to So if I can say anything to 20, it's your resume should not be, oh, that's my resume from back in 2014. I'll just make sure I update it to where the years are correct. That's that's not how you should take an approach from a from a resume perspective. No. Yeah. And I I like, if you're applying for a job to become a welder and your top accomplishment is when you were worked at the Chiquita Banana Factory and you were top sticker man in the third quarter of two thousand eleven, like, I don't care. I won the science fair back in high school. Well, you're applying for a janitor position. We don't care. I once made Tripe

as part of my cultural fair in ninth grade. It was delicious. I made my own beef jerky once. It's very sweet. Can I be a machinist here? 17, be alone. Yeah. Or as we say, be alone.

Millennial generation prizes community deal with that, which is very good, but it tends to come at the cost of fearing loneliness. The truth is being alone could do you a lot of good. Be able to sit quietly, reading, writing, praying, or just listening to the silence.

And use that time to truly evaluate how your spirit is. So I didn't see that deal, man. I feel like I should have been listening to this sitting next to a fireplace with a Snuggie on, like, this is getting ridiculous. Loneliness is exercise for your heart. I can't take this No. Just just stop. Okay. Here's the deal. So from a Jesus perspective, I agree. You should be able to be alone. Mhmm. I think that that most of the 20 that I know around me that have difficulty with being alone can't stand themselves. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. They have no way to to be able to stand themselves and therefore, if they're if they're alone, they have to face that. If you're with somebody else, you can focus on them or at least focus on how they make you feel versus how awful you are. Yeah. Right. And I think that,

that one of the biggest things, you know, like I said from a Jesus thing is, you know, learn how to be alone, but focus your time on building the relationship between you and God. You know, don't take that alone. It's like, oh, I can't wait till God sends me a a wife, or I can't wait till God sends me a husband, or, you know, I can't wait to have kids. Spend that time growing in in in your love for Christ, and and spend that time taking care of other people building those relationships. God doesn't have you not married so that you can sit there and sulk. You know, you've got that time to build serious foundations with Jesus and then go and take that out into the world. Well, yeah. Everything's a we. Right? I could be sitting out on my on my back porch,

looking out and and nobody else in my house, and I could reasonably say, hey, God. What do we got going on? Yeah. You know I'm saying? Like, it's not just what do my hey. I hey. Don't bother me. I'm evaluating my spirit. Oh, yeah. That sounds like what somebody says when they got gas. When they and they somebody put them outside. That's You will evaluate your spirit up there. I I will be using that going forward.

I this is definitely something that I'm not good at, and I'm I'm trying to get better because, you know, I I prayed for years, you know, God, and also, specifically, would say, God turn me into the man I'm supposed to be, to be, worthy of one of your daughters. But then I wouldn't spend any time trying to become that. Right. Like, all I would do is I would spend that time praying for God to transform me, and he's sitting there going,

booba, you have hours every day where you can do exactly what you want me to do, and you're not. Right. How about you put down your video games, and you start spending some time learning about me, and I'm just like, God, I really need you to make me a man I'm supposed to be for one of your daughters. He's like, you can go do the dishes, and you could probably figure out your laundry that you haven't touched in a week and a half, and then you could be more of a man that's worthy of one of my daughters, so she doesn't have to take care of that for you, you boob. Yeah. Right. Hey. Hey. I wanna know you deeper while I continue to do nothing that gets me to know you deeper. Really, just just make me the man I'm supposed to be. Well, stop making Totino's pizzas for dinner every single night. Get off your butt and go do something. I know you wrote a best seller, but I don't wanna breach that. Can you just make me a man as I sit? Hey, man. Deuteronomy is that one in the beginning. Right? I don't know much more than that. Man. I then that's that's righteous indignation for myself, because I was an idiot. And I still am in many ways. I'm still working on that. But if you're worried about being alone, maybe you should spend some time actually get to know your creator. Well, I I mean, I I think this one is not necessarily implying that you should worry about being being alone. It's that you should be able to be alone. True. But but it's it's the same same basic premise holds though is that like I don't I get it. It's am I leaning on someone else to provide my validation of who I am, what my identity is, blah blah blah. But also, you know, do I if I if I can't

just be Right. And have some some downtime, like, the the notion of rest is not just sleep. Like, it's rest. Right. And so that that is good things. I just, I was I think there's some truth here. I'm just throwing off the wording is stupid. Loneliness is exercise

that's a huge problem with today, though. I think a lot of people is scared to be alone. Yeah. I think that's a lot of people. Like, a lot of people are really scared to be alone, and they really can't think by themselves most of the time. So most people just draw energy from the next person to make it day by day. So Well, that's true. So and I think that the barrier there, right, is that,

you're thieves. Right? Right. Like like you only you only can take from other people. And if you're not if you can't be by yourself, if you can't have something that is kind of, centered around you and and frankly, you know, if you find your identity in Jesus, being able to be confident in that alone, that opens up anybody else to be able to influence who you are. And so when what they have to offer you is negative, then they'll drown you in it. Yeah. And you don't have any other options. Yeah. There's a difference between being an extrovert and being a leech. Yeah. Right. You don't need to do that. Yeah. Yeah. You can't give it to anybody else if you it's constantly you're taking them because that's the you have to be around someone like that. Yeah. It could be the yeah. It it could be go the other way though. Like you say, like, like you taking energy from somebody positive and that's a good thing, you know. But like you say, like, it's a lot of energy in the air, so, like, you can take the wrong energy. Like, if somebody's having a bad day, they can push their bad day on you, and then you don't even know why you Right. Into it or you know? So it's like, energy is a big is a big problem

right now. Yeah. I mean, it can have an impact. But I I think that's that's kind of the point. Right? It's like, are you able to knowing that that other people aren't perfect, if you have no grounding on your own and you're dependent on them to kind of influence who you are, what you're doing, blah blah blah, you're gonna have a hard time being able to stay consistent in a in a world full of people who often don't act consistently. Yep. Yeah. Number 19, prioritize

the important over the urgent. There are two types of demands on your life. The first and easiest to focus on are the urgent, paying your rent, getting ahead in work, etcetera. The second and much harder to tackle are the important, full colon, your spiritual life, your relationship with your family, looking after the health of your soul. Why? Why? Why do I say things like this? Know the difference between what's urgent and what's important and know which one matters more. The principle behind it, I can agree with. I think that that's that's a deal. If you are if you are constantly flighty in everything you do because every single thing is is prioritized as urgent and important,

you'll never get anything important done. Yeah. You know, if every single thing, you know, from paying your bills to making sure that you check your Facebook, to making sure that you text your friend back, to responding to certain things. And then, you know, if you prioritize your your your Facebook is the same as your laundry, every time those things are battling, it's it's a problem. So I agree with the concept of being able to prioritize

and and and find what's, what needs to be done at the beginning of the day and what can wait till the end. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I'm heading forward to it. 20, hold on to a good friend. There's gonna be a lot of transition in your twenties as both you and your friends go from job to job and location to location, because you obviously are also friends with all urban hipsters

bouncing from place to place. Going from coffee shop to coffee shop perfecting that perfect cup. I was thing is people get older, they change. So, I mean, you can't always hang with everybody you knew from your twenties. Very true. Yeah. Know, like, you grow as a person, you know, like, some people go left and you go right, and you know, like, it's not good to hold on to things that God wants you to move away from. So I know. That that's a bit like, like we talked about earlier, clinging to the, clinging to the old times. Right? Like, you can't let go of who you were in the past when you were associated with all these people. So you continue to try to drag those relationships in a in a life or an environment that can no longer sustain it. And, and, I think Nick's right. Like, sometimes you just gotta let some stuff go, and you gotta figure out what you're what what are the things that God has you holding on to, and what are things you can just part ways with. Yeah. Yeah. Alright. Alright. Let's see. Alright. That's it. That's 20. Boo, how do you how do you stack up here? Said pretty good, I'm

never gonna say pretty good. I hope that I I got I got room to grow. 20 things every 20 something should know how to do. What did you stink the most at? What I stink the most at? Limit your online life. Yes. Let's see. Mentor.

May like, maybe a little bit mentor? You need you you you yeah. No. You're doing alright there. Bite your tongue. Stay well well rested, you stink. Yeah. Well rested, I'm terrible, and and online presence, I'm terrible. And write a cover letter you don't do, and be alone with just flowering. Where's this be alone coming from, man? Nobody Nobody says that. Yeah. B I lone. Yeah. That's what it is. Alright. Whatever. Anyway, you're listening I think we should come up with our own list of 20.

No. That is a good idea. From a Christ followers perspective, what are the 20 things you should do getting out of your twenties? Yeah. Okay. Alright. Yeah. Let's put the thought on that. That's a good call. You're listening to Live From The Path. You can hook up with us during the week at livefromthepath.org. You can hear past clips from the show, full podcast videos, interviews with the bands, some performances from the bands, also some some games and stuff you can play if you wanna do some secular versus Solomon or some other quiz action, all that stuff is available out on the website. We have a few things to read. We just can't seem to do that consistently, but I got a couple blog posts out there you can check out, the Tim Timmons album review, other things that

unfortunately, it's there when we get around to things that are important to me, but obviously not prioritized well. So anyway, enjoy that to the best of your let's prioritize this. That 20 things that you should know from a Christ followers Christ followers perspective before you leave your twenties. That's gonna be the next thing you can read from Life on the Path. Okay. And if you have any ideas or anything you'd like to chime in on that list, you can email us at [email protected]. Yeah. Yeah. Or hook us hook up on the hit us up on Twitter or Facebook message post, whatever. Yeah. Yeah. I'd be kinda interested in those things for you guys that are listening. What are what's what's part of the 20 things every 20 should know how to do

from your perspective? Alright. Okay. We we got time for some some Dear Dear Life Path? Yeah. Let's at least do one, maybe maybe a couple. Alright. Dear Life and the Path. We have an adult son and daughter who can't handle money and can't keep a job. They need to read our list of 20 things you should do before you leave at twenty. Be alone, Ed. Should we tell them they are not going to inherit everything we have when my wife and I are gone?

Oh, cat's hitting hard. We have bailed them out of more trouble more than once, but they don't seem to learn. Oh, they're in their thirties and forties. Oh, wow. And neither one is looking for a job. Anything we left them would soon be squandered. Yeah. And there are many organizations that could put the money to good use. Oh. Yep. We would leave them something, but nothing like what they expect. So tell them or not. Perplexed in the South. Yeah. Yeah. You tell them.

Yeah. Yeah. Not not because you're trying to force their hand or beat on them or anything. It's just the reality. Hi. You're you're 30, 40 years old. You can't seem to handle your money. Well, you're gonna squander it, and we wanna we want our money to go we earned it, and we want it to go to good use. And so because with this we think this will negatively impact your life, we're gonna give it to somebody else. Yeah. I I think that's fair. I think the loving thing as a parent to do would be to make certain that they don't squander that and and and set them up for more failure. You know? The quicker they go through the hard lesson of learning how to take care of themselves, the better they're gonna be in twenty years.

So? Yeah. I I I think what like, part of the reaction is to think, am I saying this because I'm trying to prod them and say, if you don't change your ways, then I won't give you blah blah blah. Yeah. I wouldn't put it that way. I would just say, look, this is what we're gonna do. And the truth is, it's your money. So if they they straighten up their ways, and ten years from now you wanna change it, you say, hey. Great. We've changed what we're gonna do. But, like, there's no reason to dangle it, because that can't be a good enough motivation to do the stuff that they need to. They need to change it because they need to change it anyway. Right. Okay. Secular says,

in the back of my mind is echoing the Boy Scout motto, be prepared. You should definitely tell your children now while there's still time for them to get off their posteriors and start preparing for their financial futures. Alright. I think we're good. Is the impression that they are that they are, simply waiting it out because they think that the parents gonna die soon, and so they're not gonna do anything looking because, I mean, that seems like it might be a while off.

I mean, well, I guess so. Is that ever alright? No.

Man, I'm gonna That's pretty bad. Yeah. You go yeah. No. That's that's a terrible I'm really I'm trying to hold out for the kids and hope they're not that way. It it sure seems like they are, but like I wanna hold on to that one thing that they're not holding out for their parents. Here's the here's the only question I have, I suppose, is that if you have two kids in their thirties and forties, and they both are acting this way, maybe you stink as a parent. Is that the right thought? No. Sometimes, you know, kids can go off and do what they wanna do, like Both your kids got the same problem? But you gotta think about it. Sometimes people be in their second childhood, Like, that's what it sound like. It seem like they real content with whatever they life, however their life is going, so they content with that. But, you know, like, god tell us don't be content with anything, you know, because stuff gotta change. So and you it's not in us to understand how it change, but when things do change, that's how it do. I feel like you might be overly gracious to the parents. I'm just saying, like, you got one kid that goes off the rails. I hear you, man. That happens. But you got two kids off the rails in the same way, maybe you spoiled them kids. Yeah. Yeah. Maybe that's how they ended up that way. Yep. Contend with the situation, and basically

feel like they really comfortable with how they living, and, you know, probably no responsibilities, but mean, I I'd be comfortable with how I was living if I thought I had a good chunk of chains coming when my parents were gonna die soon. Yeah. Unfortunately, I feel like my parents don't have any money, they'll probably live for another thirty years. So I just ain't my reality.

Yeah. And then I think it's like bad luck to even wish things like that, like, to try to speed the process up, so you can get something like that. I don't think you will spend your money really good after that. Like, I don't even know how you can sleep at night doing it. Yeah. Yeah. That don't Yeah. I I'm just, I mean, that doesn't impact the advice, I guess. I'm just thinking, like, you got two kids off the rails like that. Maybe you contributed. Alright. What else you got? Alright. One more. Dear life of the path.

Oh, man. What is going on? My phone keeps wanting to kick me out of this thing. Give me a second. It's gonna be a good one. It's it's gonna be awful, actually, as a matter of fact. Give me a second. No. That's compelling. Well, the Dear Life of the Path website is not one of What else do you have? Alright.

Dear Life From The Path, I have a good friend who is a bed wetter. It's obvious because he's constantly doing laundry and his home smells bad at times. Mhmm. We once shared a hotel room, and I was awakened in the middle of the night by a strong smell of urine. He tries to hide his problem, but seems to be doing little, if anything, to find a solution for it. I want to persuade him to get some help, but I don't feel like com I don't feel comfortable saying anything, and I don't want to embarrass him. What can I do, lie from the path? Concerned friend in Michigan. Well, wait, can we at least understand, like, let's agree that you've overstated some of the facts, for one. Right? You can't say he's done little to nothing to try to improve it, when you haven't, when you're too embarrassed to even talk to him about it. Like, how do you even know that? Oh, that's a good point. To make the case that he's I mean, maybe the guy's working hard. Maybe he's on pills.

But you have no idea what he's done. So at least let's start with the premise that, like, he's not being, you you don't know whether he's disregarding the problem for yeah. That's that's fair. You need to you need to kinda buck up and go talk to the dude. Yeah. So, I mean, like, let's just start there. Like, don't don't presuppose what he's up to or what you know. So be I I mean, I don't know how you say that. Say, look, Cecil, I don't know how was supposed to put this, but do you wet your pants while you're sleeping? Hey, man. I remember one time we stayed in a hotel together. It smelled really bad like urine. Yeah. Was that you? Because it wasn't me. Did you miss the John and I mean, hit the bed?

Did you miss the bathroom entirely? Alright. Fair enough. Yeah. I mean So start with having an actual conversation. That way, you can see if they actually have done something. And if they what what happens if if it turns out the dude has legitimately done nothing? What do say? Then I say, hey, man. You gotta straighten that out. It smells like urine in here. Just straightforward, Here's the thing. What else are you gonna do? There's no euphemism for this. There's just that there's just no, like, hey, I thought perhaps a rhinoceros came in here and accidentally, you know, treated this like the Amazon, or you're wet in the bed. Cecil. That's awesome. I created this shadow puppet play to talk to you about, what might be a problem. I picked this book up for you, at the Just

Not There. Just That'd be the greatest bedwetting book ever. Everybody pees, just not there. Yeah. Yeah. So I there's no there there's no fanciness here. Say, Cecil, do you wet the bed? Alright. Fair enough. I feel like you might wet the bed. Want by being straightforward. Yeah. And here's the deal. If you're not close enough to this guy, hey, how'd you get in a hotel room with him? Right. You're creepy. And the sec like, you're over at his place. I feel like you're close enough. It's just time to bring it up. Alright. Fair enough. Yeah. Yeah. What's what's the secular Alright. The secular says,

what would you want your friend to do if the situation were reversed? And you were the person with the bed wetting problem. Friends communicate with each other, talk privately with this person. Say you think there may be a problem, and urge him to discuss it with urologist. There is help for bedwetters, medications as well as mechanical devices that in many cases can fix the problem. But hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Mechanical devices? Jesus. I did not plan on divulging on that one. Does that do? I don't wanna know. Hold on. Go ahead. Keep Oh, man. Bedwetting

machine. But only if the sufferers and bedwetters do suffer, no help is available and are willing to ask for it. Well, there's an alarm. What? Hold on. Bedweddingstore.com.

Just a minute. What? Hold hold tight. Ben. Rogers Roger wireless bedwedding alarm system. A $129. This is an adult with a problem, and you're you're gouging him. A 130 bones So it senses wetness and then just kinda gives you a heads up like, hey, man. Isn't it too late then? It's a yeah. It's a pair of boxes. It's got a it's got a wetness sensor on it. I feel like it's too late at that point in time. That's not stopping anything. You've peed the pants. What the heck is it? Hold on. You you haven't fixed anything. You just now are more aware of the fact that you wet the bed. You still have to change your sheets and and comforter. Why is all this so expensive?

Hey. Is there there's an app. No. There's an a dry matters app. Oh, no. Please don't tell me that's actually what's called. Here's the thing. It's like, whatever's going on with your body, let's just say that, like, I I mean, it would no one chooses to wet the bed. Let's be clear on that. Okay? So, like, I I'm gonna I'm not I'm not trying to necessarily make light of this thing. I'm just saying, like, I don't understand how these things are so expensive. What could be in these fancy underpants? And so what are they? Mormon blessed? Why are they a $130?

They do have a moisture sensor built into them. That doesn't sound cheap. Here's a Clippo bedwetting alarm. Look at all these hold on. This Are you gonna throw them up? The can't. Oh, it's it's on the other computer. Okay. Malem ultimate bedwetting alarm is a $100. It's been rated by 1,292 people. They come in multiple colors. What? You gotta be the fastest guy in the world to make it to the and

now you're running and jumping. Like, I feel like it's too late. Like, yeah. Yeah. To next point, a legit guy can't stop midstream. Like, I I assume a bed wetter's let yeah. Let alone a dude that's unconscious. What else do they sell here? Hold on. Treatment kits, bedding, watches, vibrating watches. Why is it what does that do? It probably vibrates your your wrist when it when it senses moisture. Again, too late. Or does it just remind you to go to the bathroom?

Oh, hold on. Here we go. Oh, it's for this one's for kids. It said, here's here's a review. I bought the Vibralight three vibrating watch for my 10 year old son. He needed to be reminded to use the bathroom and this watch Okay. Did the That makes sense. That's it. So like it's it's preemptive. Yeah. Briefs. Here we go. Male protective vinyl briefs. $20. That's a diaper. Yeah. That is a diaper. No. They have disposables as a separate category. Oh, jeez. Hold on. A reusable diaper then. You've got the cloth diaper. Male absorbent breeds? All it says. Hold on. Yeah.

Exactly. At what point in time is it the dude has has to choose between, hey, man. Do I go to the bathroom? I guess, like, my pants will stop it. Yeah. I mean, mean, some of this I get, like, this is, like, incontinence stuff, like, when you're older. Right. That that doesn't seem like the guy that we were talking about. But, I just I just did not have any idea. I'm weirded out at how interested we are this bedweddingstore.com. Check check that out. Don't favorite that. Decal skins for clip o alarms. Oh, jeez. Alright. We gotta let you go. Hey. Thanks for hanging out with us on Life and Path. We appreciate it. If you're a bed wetter and, you've never heard of bedweddingstore.com,

I feel like this is the place. It's time to admit that you had a problem and seek seek wisdom from it. I I things I don't know that are resistant. Please don't email us. No. I don't really need to know about your stuff. I'm just saying, go check that. This is where I would go. Heck, man. I wouldn't even know where to start with fedweddingstore.com. Well, there you go. Okay. Alright. I'm in. Alright. Thanks for hanging out with us. And,

in the meantime, we'll see you next week. Be faithful in means. God will handle the ends. You've been listening to Live From The Path.