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And your list is two live from the bat. We're coming to the, Pathway Studios here in Johnston and Crawford. Thing is acting weird. I know it. He was like that. He's been like that all day. I didn't see him earlier today. I can just I can tell. I can tell he's being that way. Hey. Okay. Here's what we gotta get this show moving before the whole the studio crashes down. So we got a few articles to get to, and then I think we're gonna give some advice. And, Mike, did you would you wanna talk about hope? No. We're only gonna nail It's gone. The actual, meeting of life and hope stuff if we didn't have any articles, but apparently, we got some articles. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We so we got a couple of things. So the, there's a organization in The United Kingdom that says only 6% of UK adults identify as practicing Christians. Did you expect higher? I mean, 6%, though. That's pretty small. Practicing? That's real tough. Maybe practicing is the keyword. Okay. So here it says, the survey was over 3,000

UK adults commissioned by five Christian organizations and found that four percent identify as agnostics, twelve percent as atheists.

That's interesting to me. I well, so here's the big buckets, though. Practicing Christian, 6%. Non practicing Christian, forty two percent. I wonder what the I I assume I would check the article, see what it what it means. But, like, if someone were to say, hey, man. I'm a non practicing Christian.

What do you what do you presume that means, Nathaniel? I assume it means that they're part of the the the the this is England. Right? UK? Yeah. That isn't there, like, a church of England? You're born there? You're you're a Christian? You mean, like, the Anglicans? Yeah. Ain't that a thanks, Del?

Yeah. But but but, like, if you ask someone if you're a non practicing Christian, what does mean? What are you not doing? Being a Christian. Okay. Nathaniel's not helpful. Mike, what do you think you're not doing? It's like saying you're a non practicing window washer. Right? Like, you understand the ins and outs of it. Pretty cool. Do you think windows should be washed? You think windows should be washed, but you're not the guy that's don't wash the windows. You're not gonna get up there and get in the rail. Okay. So That's Nathaniel again. I really teed him up. I thought listen. I'm ready this time. Nathaniel Nathaniel's,

microphone is, like, almost always too low. Always. And then I fix it, and then he comes in, like, booming hot. And so I thought I thought I had it right this time, so I said, I'm a tee him up so I can just check this thing out. And, like, I'm looking for something like, you know, they probably don't pray. They probably don't attend the services. And I say, what's a non practicing Christian? I was like, not a Christian. God not being a Christian. He's not he's not doing Christian. You took the grimace route. If there was a if there was a role for being the Grimace, that was you. Alright. Like the guy who steals the hamburgers? That's the Hamburglar. You two bit dunce.

His name is Hamburglar. What's Grimmers do, though? He's that big Barney looking character. Doesn't he steal shakes or something? He doesn't steal. Mean, he just likes them. No. He's friend he's like a big purple egg, I think. No. He got He doesn't get a lot of plating more. Lot of shakes and fries. And Does he steal hamburgers? Ben? Yeah. I sorry. So I it doesn't really say what it means to be non Christian. To be a non practicing Christian?

I mean, like, in their mind, like, would you say it probably means, like, they don't attend church services or or, you know, or or, you know, go out and join community groups for whatever. You know? But they still believe in God and Jesus. They just don't do anything about it. Yeah. Okay. And so I really believe. So if someone said ask you, where would you go to find out about the Christian faith? How would you answer? I would say the Bible. Okay. Mike's in for the Bible. Dan? Yeah. Definitely the Bible. Definitely the Bible. Nathaniel? I'll just go with the Bible. Oh, okay.

They're okay. There's something did come in hotter than the bible, higher than the bible. Someone said, where do I go to learn about the Christian faith? Church. The Internet. Okay. The Internet wins. What? Yeah. 26% said Google, 22%

they would go to a local church. 22% said they would read the Bible, and 15% said they would talk to a friend or a family member who is Christian. Boy, I'd like that list completely inverted. I would like you to go talk to your friends first because I can't expect you to understand the Bible and all its nuances right off the right off the smacker. So you find a guy that's living it out and have have have them explain it to you. Yeah. That whole pyramid's upside down. Yeah. What I mean, what does that tell you about how either poorly Christians represent themselves or don't live I mean, the only 6% appear to be practicing it. So they're like, you know, I I wouldn't even know who to talk to. Yeah. We don't even have this down. So if you went to the Google and said, what is a Christian? The Wikipedia would jump up and say Christianity is a Abrahamic monotheistic religion based on the life and teachings of Jesus of Nazareth. It's the world's largest religion with about 2,500,000,000

followers. They didn't really tell me anything. 2,500,000,000. Yeah. Yeah. You're right. I don't know if the Internet's the place to start, but I suppose that's where they would I mean, if you wanted to find something about

Islam, like, were curious, I would Google it. No. That's true. I suppose I suppose that's how I would disassociation from it, I guess. You know? Like but if you're 41% are non practicing Christians, Right? But you understand the basic tenets of it when you just go find someone to talk to opposed to googling it? Yeah. I feel like if I knew a plumber, I wouldn't Google plumbing answer. I would just call my plumber friend.

Yeah. Yeah. I suppose yeah. That's true. Like, if you claim to be a Christian still, you're just non practicing, it would seem appropriate that you might just check out the church or go ask the local pastor or priest or something. Mhmm. Yeah. Okay. If only 6% of the population is practicing Christians there, like, where do you find a church? I well Yeah. More a higher percentage have to be attending services in The UK. Like, I suppose like, I'd Google that. Like, what percentage of, The UK population attends church? If it's higher than 6%, that means you got a bunch of dudes showing up, like, purposely not taking it in. I mean, don't you think these churches are paid off?

Maybe there's just a few people in it, but it doesn't matter because, I mean, that building's been there for six hundred years. They they paid it off two hundred fifty years ago. It's not a deal anymore. I mean, they had to put some air conditioning in there. That's gotta cost something. I don't know. I don't know. Notre what is it? Notre Dame was not, it's not air conditioned. Yeah. It burned down. Yeah. The humid air took everybody.

Okay. Anyway, I just I I don't know, man. That doesn't seem I mean, that's three three thousand people that maybe it's not surprising. Maybe it's proper maybe people are feeling like they're okay to be honest. They're like, yeah. I still call myself a Christian, but I don't do anything at all. I'm resembling Christianity. In the five religious organizations that paid for this. Like, this is how we get information anymore. We stand back in a room and go, let's pay someone else to get it. How are doing? Tell us how we're doing. I mean, no one trusts the guy with the white thing around his neck who goes, hey. Do you go to church? Like, they're prone to lie to him. Yeah. So you gotta get you gotta get someone who's who does not threatening. Alright. So it's a it's a real interesting, thought process in, like, in our modern, age where,

like, that information was not available fifty years ago, let's say. Yeah. Right? So, like, we didn't do almost anything based on data or at least a real rudimentary set of data. Like, like, fifty years ago, we wouldn't have sent a poll out to see how people are sitting on this fence. We would just said, well, we were sent here to serve this neighborhood. We bet best get out and do it. And, like, whatever's going on is not really our deal. We're just gonna keep preaching the word and loving people, and then we'll see what happens. Yeah. This gets back to kind of that numbers conversation we had, a number of episodes back around

is there a place where the counting is a disservice to us? Yeah. And and maybe even maybe think of how much how how much re how much how the amount of resources

that churches put into or church organizations as a whole put into surveying, counting, marketing. And if you just took that same stuff and you said, look. We're just gonna put it towards things that are the basically, Mike's description, which is we're just supposed to go about and do the things that we're supposed to do, and we're gonna do them here locally. And then we're gonna have to trust that God's got somebody on the corner of the next street over and that he's gonna handle over there. Yeah. I don't know. Is that does that put it does that put the church as a as a disadvantage?

I get once again, it's a weird thought because, like, if you were if if you were gonna ask me how important data is to, like, my work environment, I would say the more data, the better. Yeah. We would definitely wanna know. But but I would say my my feeling is towards the opposite when it comes to, god stuff because I'm like, I don't know. He counts. I mean, he's counting hairs on heads. It just seems useless for me to count. And so it makes less sense to me to do it in the most important thing that I do in my life. And so it's just an interesting I don't know. It's an interesting thought where, like, my modern brain goes, yeah. More data is better except for when it comes to what God has got has got you doing because you're not in control of making a decision on the outcome or exactly what you're going to do. That's God's deal. Yeah.

Yeah. I don't know. Dan, have you ever, like, in in your ministry career, would you can you think of times where you've heard data and it's caused you where you've changed? You said, oh, based upon this, I'm gonna change my tactics or change my aim or focus or something. No. Use the word tactics.

That sounds better. Kinda like a few years ago, we did a demographic study of the area based off of, like, the census, I think, and there might have been some polling in there, so there had to be. And we looked at percentages and x number of people. They wanna know how to do family. They wanna know how to have a better marriage. There was, like, certain things they were wanting. Yep. And so it was like, well, let's do some teaching on that, and that's the kind of stuff. If I'm gonna, like, advertise something, that would be what I would advertise. Like, hey. We're doing a family talk of something. But I haven't done that for a while. But

so that kind of but that's always been, like, one of those felt needs things. Like, I mean, everybody has family. Must must not be a better dad or mom or whatever. Right. So So okay. So but and would you say did it feel like it was effective? No. I mean, it didn't, like, suddenly bring people in. You know? Like, oh, that wanna hear that sermon. You know? Yep. But,

you know, like, through the years, like I mean, hundred years ago, it was like, okay. Nobody is turning on the radio to listen to hymns and organ music. So I used that to say, like, maybe we shouldn't that shouldn't be the driving force of music on Sunday mornings. And that's what began our transition back in the, you know, late eighties, nineties to, you know, a full band.

Yep. And that's what but a lot of churches were doing that then. They were they were starting to, and that was based, I think, on, you know, data and and but Yeah. So there's so I maybe, again, back to that accounting conversation, like, there's there's probably a place for it. But but I do wonder like, does it I guess, Mike, hearing hearing that 6%

of the folks in The UK are practicing Christians that create in you any sort of urgency or change in the things that you're doing day to day, week to week? No. No. Well If you heard that that was true in The United States, would it change anything? No. I just don't think it's true. I think a three a 3,000 person sampling, depending on where you took it, is not an accurate

parlay of what exactly is going on. And, yeah, I I don't know. There's something about that that I don't just I I just don't quite trust. That would make me want to, like, jump into the book of Acts and start studying that deeper going, okay. That's that's where these people were, except even when it was lower than that. Yeah. It was like nothing. Right. And then they started at ground zero and

thinking that, well, I've done all of my education training experiences in a culture that at least acknowledged God. And to suddenly wake up one day and say, wait, no, actually that's not true. It takes the church, it takes people a couple decades to realize, Wait a minute, they don't all think like me. Acknowledge that. And then it's like, that means I do need to change my tactics.

I need to actually introduce them to Jesus as opposed to saying, hey. You need to follow Jesus my way, not that, you know, that other church's way. It it so that makes it important is actually teaching the gospel and letting the power of the gospel do its thing. Yeah. You know, I think there is something, within that that says

the the more that you're cognizant of your surrounding community's

perception of God or background of God, you do teach differently. Just like I I would teach differently when there are children in the room than when I wouldn't Yeah. Based upon things that they may or may not know. If you if you have a presumption that the people who are there and that you're talking to or that you're meeting with this is true, not even just pastoring, like, not teaching. Right? But, like, your day to day life and you're meeting you're meeting a guy at work who says he's a Christian, he could be this other bucket. And or when you're talking to someone of, that you feel like has a shared background, maybe they don't. And some of these these terms will need redefining,

And the context to what you're speaking to is different. You have to you actually you're they're from somewhere else. It's it's like talking to someone with a different background, and you actually have to explain what it means to go buy nickel candy at the Ben Franklin or something. Yeah. And so I I I do I do wonder if that's helpful in that way is once you once you know that it may cause you to rethink how your day to day stuff is going. But although it kinda presumes that you're not like, you're totally blind and dumb about it anyway. Like, if you're in a room full of kids, you know, take it take your you guys are teaching youth group or something, and

you had not considered whether people are taking it in right. And you look them in the face, and they they they don't understand it, and you continue to pursue on anyway because you're so dull of a dull thing. Like, I is it stuff that you wouldn't otherwise learn just doing trench work? Don't I understand the question. I think if you're just observing, you you you would figure it out. Yeah. That that's what I'm saying. Is that, like, do you need You don't need a survey. Or Right. Right. Wouldn't you start to like, if you're paying attention at all and you cared about what you were trying to do, did you need a survey to tell you that most of the culture doesn't understand the stuff you're talking Yeah. So, really, what it boils down to is is, like,

like, how much do we believe that, like, God is in what you're doing and will poke and prod and change the things that you're doing without that data? Like, do we believe that if sans the study

that, like, God would put it on your heart that we need to talks talk about family stuff for a little bit? You know? Like, do we believe if you were seeking, you know, God's face and saying, God, how would you like me to lead these people, and what would you like me to talk about? What are my sermon series gonna be or whatever? Right? Do we do you think that that that God will direct that as part of a,

you know, intentional listening for the Holy Spirit, or he'll work that way through you collecting the data that you paid somebody. Either one, I suppose, is possible, but, like, depending on that answer to the question kinda depends on on on whether you would say that that how much we're on the hook for collecting data and then moving and changing based on what the audience is is is after. Mhmm.

Yes. That's it's tough. I I guess may maybe the advocation here is that you certainly should be reacting to the situation going on around you and changing and adapting where it makes sense, like, where the thing that you're trying to do is not connecting with someone. It can't because the gospel isn't good news. So but but the maybe the value in a macro state with is less necessary because it almost puts you on the hook, like like, you're gonna do anything about the macro state. And you're not. And and and once again, it's it's probably a more modern thought that says the macro is your concern anyway. Right? Like, most people ran fairly smaller churches,

you know, that were based in their community, and, like, you can pull the community pretty quick by a walk down the street opposed to going, well, if I look at this city of 40,000 people, you know, 18% seem to feel this way, although there's there's a good point o three that actually come to my place. You know what I'm saying? And so, like Yeah. We start looking at as as our society as as a bigger chunk and then go, well, of course, they wanna learn how to be better parents. They don't know Jesus. Right? And they're trying to come through this on their own and figure out how to take two broken people in a broken situation and raise broken kids and and with no room for grace or mercy or,

god's pernicious love, then, yeah, you're gonna you're gonna struggle, right, figuring that out. I don't think you used that word right. Pervasive. Yes. Much better. I'm great with words. Pernicious is not no. You're also probably not using parlay correctly. Yeah. It is. Parlay. Move move to the next. Yeah. But that isn't how you used it. Yeah. Did. How did I say it? Parlay this over here. I used it. Right? So I have a a a digital

what's it called? What's the digital Watch. A digital coach. Phone. Oh. Oh. For four weeks I'm meeting with to basically his prem we gotta have him on the show sometime. The basic the premise is you you do this work on a sermon already, and and don't just cut it up and put little pieces out, but, like, rework some of that into

smaller pieces to a different audience to put it out digitally. Mhmm. Because, like, it's one you'd speak one way to a congregation. You speak another way to Joe Blow on the street who didn't come to church but might wanna know the same thing. Mhmm. And so I'm kinda I'm week one was last week, so tomorrow's week two. It'll be interesting to see where this goes, but I think that's the idea is is you're looking at how do you how do you bring the gospel to this culture that's not going to church but might be on social media

and how what how do you feed them something they want to hear and that they can learn from and benefit from? Anyway yeah. So, I I don't know, just kind of rethinking how you do stuff. Do you think Christians are are Christians the type of people who sneak by the turnstile?

No. Hopefully not. I mean, not not at a gate where you have to pay. Like, would you go to the Menards? Oh. You sneak by the turnstile? Oh, yeah. I do that. Okay then. That's what I'm saying. Nathaniel, do you walk through it straight and bold? Yeah.

I try and make it spin a couple times. They make up for the people like me. Oh, yeah. I sneak by it every time. I don't like to be counted. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Well, I guess the the reason I asked that is I is, Mike, when you were talking about 3,000 people, it's not enough. I thought, is there something about Christians in general where, like, surveys misrepresent them because we don't wanna be counted, and we don't wanna be talked to or tallied? That's what I was thinking earlier. Like, who replies to a survey? Like, if I got a survey in the mail said, what do you believe? I would throw that right in the garbage. No. That's true. You think they hit them up? And that's the thing. It's like, well, you could stop them on the street with a clipboard. People are like, go away. I would walk right on. Right? And the people that wanna answer that survey are the ones that don't feel like their voice is being heard right now, and they're gonna tell this clipboard guy what the deal is. Yeah. There's gotta be a I won't look at it now because but I'll I'll I'm gonna check it out this week because I wanna know someone has to do a a sociological

survey or or psychology something against what who are the types of people who take surveys? Yeah. And why do they wanna take them? And who doesn't do it? So, like, who is constantly underrepresented? Even if you tried to randomize the sample and stratify the the the people and buckets of folks, you know And parlay the results. No. And who are the people then but who are the folks who, like, they're just not involved? They they were gonna refuse to take it. I mean, I would I would absolutely refuse to take every survey. I just have zero interest because because I'm not worried about my voice being heard, whether that comes from a line of privilege or self sustainment or flat out arrogance. Like, I just I'm not I'm not interested in other people taking in what I think about this. I just I don't feel the need to tell you. Well, yeah, you know, a lot of that's because it's not your personal opinion. I know very well that that I used the automated checkout at the Walmart the other day. And, I go poking out all the things, and I I I paid for the thing, and all of sudden it says, please rate your experience. Yeah. I got one of those. And I said, I'm I'm already on the way out, man. I don't wanna rate my experience. No. They can't ask me in the middle of the thing. I've been upset. So this is the only time to do it as I thought back on it. But,

like, the reason I wouldn't do that is I thought it's not like they wanna hear my voice. They don't know it was me. They they don't like, it could be anybody. And so it's just not, it doesn't make me feel valued or important. They're just gonna roll up the number of stars at the Altoona of Walmart over to eight weeks of time, and it's gonna get three levels up to a guy who goes, I think people are overall are satisfied. That's what I contributed to. People overall are satisfied. Yeah. Yeah. And so I thought, I don't I I just don't I'm not I don't feel compelled at all to do it. Now if if a guy came by from the corporate Walmart and he walks up and he goes, can you tell me how things going for you? You know? Is this the experience that you want? I would talk to him. I'd be glad to to to share my opinion or something. It's just, and it's not like self importance. It's just I don't know that I'm contributing to something of which I matter.

And so I'm I'm just gonna take time to do it. Every year at work, we get a yeah. It's right around this time of year. We get a an email that says, contribute. Your voice matters. Yeah. What do you think of the company? And then we have to take this survey. You don't have to. I ignored it every year. Yeah. Except for this year. You had at it. Yeah. I spilled the beans. Got time. And the very last question on the survey is, do you think any action will be taken due to this survey? And I said, no. I

don't think it will. And I don't even know this is what I typed in. I said, no. I do not. And I don't know why I took this survey in the first place. Said, ship it. But, also, I was kinda relying on the anonymity

of it all. Yeah. But, also, it's not really anonymous because they know who who I am. Like, I'm attached to some sort of number. I write my name on there. Every time I'm asked to take an anonymous survey at work, I type in my name and phone number. I feel like I feel like it's real cowardly taking an anonymous survey. So, I I said, I always put in a bunch of details, so they're for sure, it's me. Well, in a in a in a company of, like I think the last it it I saw it was, like, 90,000 employees or something like that. It's like, well, I'm gonna be I mean, if even, you know, 1% of these people,

I'm gonna be washed away in the, the mix of things. So I bet those surveys are just really hard to to parse out. Right? Because, like, especially under the condition of anonymity, every single small gripe comes out of nowhere, and you're like, what is the real thing that's floating to the top here opposed to people just griping because they feel like they're unheard. And so they're gonna throw every grievance they ever thought about. Most of the questions didn't even really apply to me because, like, most of the company is a real estate company, which Right. They're like, hey. How do you do you have trouble selling real estate? And it's like, no. I do not. No. No. I don't do that at all. No. I have yet to fail.

They only give you the two options. So you're like, look. 60% of these people aren't having any trouble selling real estate. Yeah. So what's John's problem? The we we get similar surveys, and every year, they there's a question in there, and it says, you know, in general, do you feel like you are being, you know, paid appropriately? I'm like, they never show the results for that one. But I I mean, really?

How many people are going, yeah. You know, I couldn't do with him. I'm reimbursed well. I think I'm alright. Yeah. Because you think it puts yourself at risk. Like, I can't imagine. Here's the deal. You should find the guy who goes, yeah. I think I'm doing alright, and you should fire him. Because one or two things are happening. Either you're overpaying him, or he he's not thoughtful enough to recognize that if he answers his question this way, it means you might underpay him. Right. Either way, he's a detriment to your company, and you need to get rid of him. Only hire people who go, I think I deserve more. Those are the people. Anytime I've been at the self checkout, I like to get my nose up right in the camera and show off my nose. Oh, yeah. Totally.

I don't know what it's like something I just can't pass up. Like, I see that camera on me, and I immediately put my full face in there to where it's unrecognizable. That's beautiful. And, like, I think there's some good Nernheimer looking at Taking it all in. And I just I've never gone through a self checkout and not put my entire face up in that camera and covered it up. Yeah. That's what I think. I think, hey. A captain misdemeanor running the security area. Take this. Give him a little shot. Take Laurie. Take my nose hairs.

Alright. Nathan, do you ever do that? I give him the eyebrows. Oh. Oh. Oh. You give him the piston Honda. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Righteous. Hey. You're listening live from the Path. Thanks for hanging out with us so far this evening. If you have any complaints about the show, you said, you know, you guys haven't been around for a while, and I would come out with a whiz bang, and instead you're boring. You're talking about work surveys and the automated checkout. I I understand. I we, you know, we we don't we don't grow them. Sometimes we steal from other people's gardens, they don't grow righteousness. It's not my fault. I used to be underprepared. So, anyway, that's the life from the path. Bob Eisenhower complaint line. (515) 517-0085. That's (515) 517-0085,

and that's call or text on the Life of the Path, Bob Eisenhower complaint line. We'd love to hear from you and what you think about the show. There was one more story, and I only regret that I had not read this earlier in the day and so hadn't been able to take some action about it. But, this story from the Christian Post, it says, title is biblical protein. Israeli company creates snack food with John the Baptist in mind. Mhmm. Oh, no. Have you ever wanted to dine like John the Baptist did minus the camel hair and leather? I mean, he didn't eat the camel hair. Hargol

FoodTech, an Israeli based firm that specializes in insect cultivation for mass consumption. Wait a minute. Have you ever seen a camel live like a live camel? That's all wanted to do. Every depiction of John the Baptist, like, he's got this woolly mammoth ape vest on. And, like, camel's pretty smooth to the touch like a horse. I never touched a camel. Yeah. You gotta do it. But either way So hold on. Where did you touch a camel? The fair? You just went up and and pawed it. Sometimes the hump part is hairier. Yeah. I mean, you you don't have to get her in the hump. Yeah. The hump. No. The hump. Did you touch his hump, Dan? No. I Have you touched the carrier?

Anyway They get Did you rub his belly? I feel like that I feel like that camel hair is pretty smooth. And, like, they always depict John the John the Baptist wearing some kinda Like the porcupine. Like a woolly mammoth Yeah. Vest. And, like, I don't I don't see it. Okay. Think about this, though. You're thinking you're thinking of a twenty first century camel that's been well groomed and taken care of by some fair four h kid. You think they're a victim of male pattern baldness?

And as the as the camels have evolved. No. I'm just saying, like, you know, they didn't have a four h kid spraying it down with some some mane and tail and giving a brush with with a a brush. Yeah. But it's not like you see a great Pyrenees looking horse out in the wild. The thing was saying that you gotta Sigfried and roll a camel.

He's been aquanetted and penned pony of camels. That's what Exactly. You're saying in the wilds, these camels are they're just They're scraggly. There's nothing but cockleburs everywhere. Okay. Anyway, this Israeli based firm specializes in insect cultivation for mass consumption, is betting American evangelicals answer to that question is around resounding yes and amen.

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Wow. I didn't know that. Actually, I

okay. This is a similar vein, and my my my children knew this, and I did not. I thought the possum and the opossum were two different animals. I think it depends if you're in the South. I think it's the way to say it. Right, Dan? Yeah. I think so. Okay. Was it what did you tell him on did we talk about this on the show already how Ben just recently figured out that they do sunrise services because the sun rose? And, like, he he just put that together. Just came to me. Like, this year? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Think he just mentioned that on Easter. I just I just thought it was, you know, like, hey. The Christ Christ the king the king rose from the dead, and so we like to get up early.

That's I mean, it's like they it was a first, you know, first of the the day, and they went out there, and it it's gonna happen. Yeah. But the sun rose, Dan. Yeah. But it's a different it's an o, not a u. In in English. I know it's a play on word. It it's wait. So so that's it is for the other reason. Yeah. I didn't miss out on it. Church churches don't do it because the son of god rose. I mean No. They're celebrating the son of god, but it's also was early. Whoever missed out on that is a real a real doofus. I mean, that's that's marketing one zero one. Yeah. I think Maybe the baptist dude. I probably thought of it. I'm probably the first guy. That's it. Anyway T shirts. Yeah. Are you sure about this locust and grasshopper thing being the same thing? Yeah. Same. Same. Locusts are an incredible source of protein and essential nutrients.

Today, if you're looking for 72% protein product, you can only find processed extraction from various animals and plants, while with locusts, it is natural. How are you feeling the vibe of this, Nathaniel, so far? You said 72%? Yeah. 72%.

What's the other? Is it carbs? Fats? What are we dealing with? What's the macro split? Yeah. They didn't go in any additional detail. I'm gonna look it up. How are you feeling? You feeling like you get swollen in these things? You gonna pump a few and pump some iron? Are they for sale right now? Yeah. Yeah. I'm gonna buy some. Yeah. It's already done. Okay. Good. I was gonna someone had to. If Nathaniel was gonna do it, I'll let you do it. You let me know. Yeah. I'm it with my camel here vest. And because of that natural protein content, locusts require no extraction or separation of the nutrients, providing those who partake with essential micronutrients and antioxidants such as omega three, iron, zinc, folic acid well, folic, comma, acid. That's not right. And vitamins e and b twelve.

Tamir said as a young boy, he remembered always hearing his grandparents talk about the locust plagues that ravaged Israel in the nineteen fifties. But while most people were busy working to scare off the locusts to protect their crops, he said Yemen and Moroccan Jews were collecting the insects and using them for food. While there's more research to be done, Tamir said there's already good data to suggest consuming locusts can support the growth of children, Improve metabolism I mean, anything can support the growth of children. Yeah. So does tricks. What they do? Improve metabolism, reduce fat, and strengthen the immune system.

We are now starting to research and unveil the health benefits locusts provide to humans. I like that he started the company without any pure health benefits. He's just like, I wanna sell bugs to people to eat. Yeah. Hold on. Even the bible describes John the Baptist as being out there weird. Yeah. You know I'm saying? And we're like, let's mainstream this thing. And, like, the whole point was he was weird. Let's see here. Okay. We're gonna look at the site. You didn't say Jesus was out there eating locusts. No. You know what I'm saying? Alright. So here we go. Kosher. Locust is uniquely is a unique living creature god created. Enormous strength jumps 20 times its body length. Stamina and endurance can fly 200 kilometers a day.

Outstanding growth rate. In just two weeks, it multiplies its body weight by 15 fold. And fertility, each generation could multiply its population by 100 fold. Look at how amazing it is. Now eat it. And they're not even promising to coat it in, salt or something, so you can take it in right. You're just gonna eat it. Okay. Now here we go. Here's some of the we're gonna visit the shop and see what's in this. These product will cost them.

Protein gummies, locust honey and raisin energy bar. Three for $9. That's pretty cheap as far as energy bars go, isn't it? Yeah. I mean And they got protein shakes?

Yeah. Here, there's a up here, there's a powder, complete protein chocolate shake mix. Individual serving sachet, $3.89. You buy one for four bones. Give it a shot. How how much if I just wanna eat it as the lord made it? I just wanna eat a can full of locusts. Family package, whole locusts. A $180. Woah. That's crazy. Yeah. Why are they so expensive? How much is that? A $180.

How many are in there? He just said that they grow a hundredfold under 15 times their own thing. Right. You basically just told me that you're making a killing off me. Yeah. Yeah. I'm gonna grow my own. That's crazy. Wait a minute. Are are are the Israeli locusts more, nutritional than, say, an Iowa locust? Hold on a minute. Hold on. Maybe there's 20 this is the family package of whole locust. That's not like 25 locusts.

Oh, it's 25 pounds? Oh, you buy 25 Of the containers. Of the containers for a $180. Yeah. The container on its own is $9. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's closer. Oh, we got you gotta buy the locust and honey combo pack. Yeah. Ready to eat locust and honey. $15.99. Look at the Christmas present. There's locusts over here in the jar, and then you, like, dip them in honey. Now what what are I mean, are they inferring that that John the Baptist dipped these locusts in honey, or he just took in locusts and honey separately?

I bet he double drank honey like a I bet he double handed it. Like crunch lick. Figure he paid, but he didn't pet the camel at the same time. Do they sell these on Amazon? I wanna pay shipping prices for them. I don't know. I don't know. For real. Are you did you look where we can buy these, Nathaniel? No. Not yet. I was looking at the macros of a grasshopper. What'd you find out? For a 100 grams of grasshopper, you can get 20 grams of protein

and six grams of fat. More protein than fat? Yeah. But 20 gram, I know 70 protein. Three grams of carbs. Is that a lot? No. I mean, like, if you consider a chicken chick chicken breast, that's 31 grams of protein, three grams of fat, and zero carbs for a 100 grams.

I feel like yeah. Nathaniel, we'd buy some. We'll bring them in, have them eat some of them. Yeah. Now I do we, like, does anybody else sell locust? Did you hold on. I'm hopping on the Amazon. Yeah. Okay. You check it out. You go to Amazon. You'd let me know if I can buy locusts off the Amazon. I feel like I'm a I'm a I'm I mean, it's a purchase. I feel like I'm have run by my wife, but I'd like to buy some locusts and honey off the Internet. Yeah. Definitely. I feel I I do at least once. And we grow locusts and honey here locally. Now this grasshopper revelation has really turned my life around. I can start catching grasshopper. How do you lure them in? What's a good grasshopper trap? You know, let's see here. And then what do I? Just put them in a cage and they make their own other grasshoppers? Well, yeah, apparently, I thought about it. I thought about trying to,

raise, farm farm salmon on my on my place, like digging a pit and having salmon, reproduce themselves so I can eat them. But, I mean, I feel like this locust thing, I wanna just get 10 of them and put them in the basement. I wonder how they kill them. I'm a have a 110 of them, like, tomorrow. Do you freeze dry them alive and then and then and then send them out? Yeah. I mean, we they don't behead them. What? I'd have to like, I just CC a guy knocking them with a little baby club. Click. Taking them out. I don't know. I don't know how else is done. You can buy on Amazon. This is all I can find for as far as bug based protein. Yeah.

Pure cricket protein powder. Oh, just a straight up powder. What do they want for that? One pound is $40. Pretty high. I don't know how I feel about it.

I mean, I can make my own cricket powder. Okay. You check the shipping. I'll I'll be able to I'll kick in on the shipping if it's too too dear just so we can get these in. Okay. That's it. That's all. Hey. Hey. What was the name of the company? Biblical bible biblical protein. Okay. We're gonna we're gonna pull these in.

Hey. You guys remember that you remember that, that one social media site that that Christian guy was supposed to trying to get off the ground? Oh, yeah. Yeah. Hold on. Listen. I kept meeting a I think it's live. Faithmeet. Yeah. Oh, no. It's not live yet. You can only register for early access.

Never mind. Okay. Was kinda excited. Same same straights it was last time. Yeah. Yeah. It's not progressed. It's supposed to launch, this year. We'll see if it comes around. But I didn't we decide it was dumb? Oh, yeah. Because no one no one who's not not of Jesus person is gonna be on there. You're correct. Yeah. Okay. Alright. You ready for advice? Oh, yeah. Dear life from the path. For more than twenty years, my mother-in-law has shown blatant favoritism toward my husband's younger brother. Mhmm. Several people, including her own mother and my father-in-law, have tried to discuss it with her, but she refuses.

My husband has accepted that there's nothing he can do to change your behavior. Life from the path, she recently, on rare occasions oh, she has recently, on the rare occasions we see her, every once every three to four years, started making snide comments implying she's concerned regardless the regarding the intellect of our children, one of whom is in an AP program.

While my husband accepts her lack of love for him and would never cease contact with her, I find her difficult to be around because she's just plain cruel. I would like to discourage her from visiting us in the future. Am I wrong to feel as I do? No. This is a this is a simple problem of boundaries, friend. And I realize that it sounds like it gets messy and hard to deal with, but, like, you just need to set up. Here's the things I'm gonna tolerate, and here's the things I'm not. And it's one of those amazing lists that you don't keep to yourself. You go ahead and tell your mother-in-law about it and say, look. Here's the things that I'm not going to accept.

If you feel like you have to continue to do them, then we're gonna have to renegotiate what our relationship is gonna look like between you and my children. We'd love to have you. We'd love to see you. We'd love to spend time with you, but these are lines we're not gonna accept being crossed. And then when she inevitably crosses them because she feels like she's not in the wrong, then you stick to your guns and say, well, I said these are the things I'm not gonna allow, and then you done it. And so here's what we're gonna do in response. And, like, you you don't have to be a jerk about it. You don't have to bring all your emotional garbage in there. Just I mean, be honest with yourself. What's the stuff you're gonna tolerate and, that you could be graceful on? What's the stuff that goes, look. I just don't have to allow this, and so I'm not gonna. Yeah. And then and then move forward. I I I agree. It's awkward. It's real awkward. No one wants to have that conversation with somebody. No one ever has to wants to define their relationship

in such stark terms. But if you can't continue the rate that you're going and you've have have searched through your own heart and real and and and seen where you're maybe causing trouble where you don't need to, write a list down, run it by your husband, and say, look. We're we're presenting this as a front, to your mama, and here's what we're gonna do, and then stick with it. Yeah. I think that's right. I think, like, you you it's okay to tolerate your mom, insulting your couch or something. That's fine. And you're gonna learn to deal with that. You're you're the quirks. Quirks of people you're just gonna have to get out get, get on board with and just realize that's who they are. However, insulting your children and their intelligence, you know, belittling your wife, making snide remarks,

like, I that's that's about your relationship. And, there isn't any particular reason that you have to, to have to tolerate that. And, again, they're setting you up. It's not like there's only two choices here that your that your mom doesn't get to say anything or get she she gets to say everything she wants. No one functions under this. Right. And so, you know, there are options where, you know what, even if she thinks it, she doesn't mention it because it's cruel. There's no reason to do that. And if she cannot withhold or restrain herself in this situation, like, she just has to say it,

then she also just has to stay away. Like, that's what she traded out for being able to speak her mind. She gets to speak it somewhere else where no one has to listen to it. Yeah. Yeah. It's pretty straight. It's pretty straightforward, albeit, understandably, emotionally, probably difficult. But, yeah, that's the right tact.

The question was, am I wrong to feel as I do? And Secular says, no. By all means, keep your mother-in-law away from the grandchildren because even though she sees them rarely, she'll likely find some way to make them feel, quotes, less than. If you thought someone was tainting their food, you wouldn't stand by and watch. Well, the same is true if someone's attempting to lower their self esteem with snide comments. Yeah. I mean, I wouldn't wanna play that particular violin too far out. Like, you can't protect your kids from everything. I I I think it's a little bit harder when, they're

they're given more weight due to their family proximity. Right? Like, I could take snide comments off people off the street all day long and go, like, I don't even know you. You know? And but it's still the same response to your kids like it is for you if they say, hey. We think that kid's something wrong with that kid, and, the kid takes it in. You say, well, is it true? Is there something wrong with you? No. I think I'm doing alright. Well, I guess we're good then. Right. Obviously, that's a hurt coming from that side. It ain't coming from you, so we're good to go. Okay. Oh, boy. A lot of family issues. Dear life from the path. My husband and I have been married for thirty five years. Five years ago, he lost the ability to perform sexually. I admit it hasn't been a priority since I've gotten older and have some health issues. We have figured out other ways to enjoy each other. Problem is he makes ugly comments about our lack of intimacy as if it's my fault he can't do it. The comments are hurtful and cause me not to want to do anything.

It seems he can turn any remark I make about something about something into one about sex, and my feelings are often hurt. One minute, he's saying how we wouldn't change anything about our life together, and the next, he's saying something mean. I'm at a loss about what to do. It's almost like he's two different people. I dread nighttime because that's when it starts. Any ideas? I'll be honest. I really wanted an example. Yeah. Because it's not it's not clear to me. It's not clear to me, like,

oh, no. The refrigerator's broken. Yeah. Like our sex life. You hag. Like, what what is this? What is he saying? I mean, obviously, he's not dealing with this well. There there's there's there there is something within a dude,

where, like, you probably is probably probably just lashing out. Like, he's embarrassed. He wants to be able to to to take part in these activities. He's not capable of doing it, and it's it's he probably feels a little emasculated about it. Right? Like, you're just used to things working. And so,

that that's probably where the where it's coming from. And as opposed to dealing with it reasonably, he's just being bitter about it. And then making Snyder remarks to his wife, like, maybe he can just anger her and makes it feel like in his head that, hey. We're not we're not getting together because my wife is irritated with me. Not because I'm not capable of doing it. Like, who knows? Maybe he's not even thinking about it too much. Yeah. But, like, I bet it's way the impact of what he's doing, but, like, I bet this is weighing on him something harsh, and that doesn't justify his behavior.

He shouldn't he shouldn't be treating you this way anyway, but, he's probably taking it he's probably taking it heavy and doesn't know how to to say that or is embarrassed to speak about it. That'd at least be some context to why he's behaving that way. Mhmm. Yeah. I mean, I think you can probably figure how he got there. The thing is is, like, it goes back to the short memory thing. Right? Like, after a while, you forget whatever that you like, the initial problem was yours.

And and we're not even saying it's a problem that, like, people should be mad at or upset about. Like, I it just happens. You know? And so, like, but realize that you did bring the the change in here. And so, to turn it around and make it seem as if it was her fault, yeah, you're he's dealing with this very, very poorly. I guess what I I think what we're trying to say is is, like, it's understandable the man is embarrassed or frustrated or,

whatever. And instead of dealing it within a healthy way or having reasonable conversations about it or even saying, hey. You wanna try this again maybe? Or you know? And in fear of failing it again and and and being even more embarrassed, but, like, your current tactic, like, lashing out at your wife, like, that's not gonna work, obviously. You know? And so, like, you just he's real childish about it. And if he's an overall everything apart from that is he seems pretty reasonable. I think you can probably tell how big of an embarrassment or frustration it is for him that he's acting so out of character.

It doesn't excuse the way that he's acting, but, I mean, it does help in the way that you're framing the way you're thinking about him. Yeah. But, also, it's like, you know, nobody's sex life has ever been improved by being a jerk. So

you knocked that few at least. Very few at least. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's Plus, it's like hop on some vitamins. Do something, man. Don't just be a whiner. Yeah. I mean, it's got it's just, I mean, totally. That that's right. That's right. It's it's I I bet it's just difficult.

I'm sure he's, you know, he's probably tried, things, and she's probably tried things to get him, jazzed up about it, and it's not worked. Like, it's it starts to become, I think, it's one of the it's a type of thing

where it it builds upon itself and just becomes difficult to overcome. Not this is a bad comparison, not like an addiction, but like kinda like an addiction. Like, if you start failing at something, it feels harder and harder to surmount the more times it fails. And even though this is a physical thing and he may or may not be contributing to it, like, it's a harder and harder thing to to start to deal with. And, frankly, it starts to put in if you're a dude,

you know, you start you realize you're getting old, and stuff is not doing the stuff that you would expect it to do, and then you start contemplating your morality and your penis ain't working. And, like, it's just a he could be in a rough run. Yeah. I the thing is is, like, how long it he's really he needs a group of friends to beat him up a little bit here. You know, be like, look. Take a just just take a look at your life and be like, look. If you're still complaining about this and you're not exercising at all, I don't wanna hear your complaints. Right. If you're still complaining about this and you're not trying to eat any differently, even though you're pounding down things that are known causes of of of problems like this and you're still smoking a pack of cigarettes a day, I don't wanna hear about it, man. Like like, if it's important enough for you to start lashing out at your wife, it's important enough for you to say, I'm gonna try everything that I can think of and everything that I can read about. I'm gonna do a little research, and I'm gonna go, look. I'm gonna give this a solid three months of honest exercise,

honest good diet, honest of of getting my overall health and my mental health where it needs to be and having some honest conversations with my wife and failing all that, then at least you went through a process of of of watch of grieving for it and going, you know what? This is not gonna come out. Talk to a doctor. Talk to some professionals. You know, talk to some friends of yours that are around your same age that have probably I know it's all embarrassing, but, like, at the end of the day, are you willing to are you willing to suffer embarrassment to get what you actually want,

which is either your penis working or your relationship with your wife, this is not being the centerpiece for you running your mouth? Either one, you need it it needs to come to some fruition, and you he needs to put up his own his own effort into it. Yeah. Parlay his effort. Parlay I was gonna say parlay, and I talked to myself about it. It's like go to a doctor. I've heard that I don't know how true this is, but I've heard, and it makes sense, at least in my brain, that, you know, ED and stuff like that is,

like, the canary in the coal mine for much serious, like, blood blood clotting type issues. Oh. For, like, heart attacks and stuff like that. Yeah. Come on, brother. Yeah. Go in for a check and and let's and improve your health and, like, honestly, on it. And and if you need that to be your motivator, maybe this is saying that over the last twenty five years, you've been ignoring your health, then this is the thing that that, you know, gets your attention. It goes, oh, I gotta do something different. Then do it. Do something different. Well, it sounds like the the frustration shows

that they're not communicating about it. And you mentioned conversation, and that kinda stuck out to me. That that that's they really need to have a conversation, and and she needs I mean, she can she can start it and just say, man, you're just not like why are you doing this? You know? Like, are you I like yeah. Are you embarrassed? Are you like, what's going on in your head? And and start that because she can't help if I mean, she's just being blindsided. She's just talking about the refrigerator, you know, and and he's coming alive with some snide comment. And it's like, well, that's not fair to her. So, yeah, they really need to have the conversation and and and and talk it out and and see what their next steps are, but there are steps. So just Yeah. And stuff that you haven't had to talk about in the first thirty years of your marriage. You know? Like, everything just kinda did what it was supposed to, and now it's not. You know? And so, like and and, like, it is it's gonna produce a lot more conversations than especially the dude is is comfortable in having, but, like, how is she supposed to know where you're at for that day? But, like, you should be comfortable talking about that with your wife. Right. Thirty five years or however many, you know, it was. I mean, if you haven't talked, you can't talk about that. I mean

Yeah. Right. You got other problems. That's the person when you get to speak. Yeah. It's the only person you get to really talk about. Yeah. Yeah. Right? Yeah. Okay. So let's see. The question was, any ideas?

Secular says, your husband may be embarrassed, angry, and frustrated that he can no longer perform, and he's projecting all that onto you. He could also be starting to, quote, lose it. I assume you have expressed to him how hurtful his remarks are. Now it's time to discuss this with your family physician who knows your husband better than I do. Okay. That's helpful, I guess. Yeah. I bet. Yeah. Yeah. Alright. Let's do one more.

Dear life from the path, under what circumstances is it socially acceptable to read a stranger's tattoo? I often admire the beautiful artwork and at one and one can appreciate that with a quick glance. But nowadays, I often encounter people tattooed with a phrase or quote or even a whole paragraph on their body. Is it rude to stop, stare, and read the tattoo? Should I first ask permission? I mean, you could say, hey. Nice tat, and see where it goes from there. Yeah. True. You could just ask. Although, you wouldn't do it like if any other writing like, if you have something's got somebody has something on your shirt or, like, you got something on your hat,

it seems pretty normal to, like, walk up and look at it. Yeah. But, like, are you leery like, how difficult is this tattoo to read? I mean, I suppose it was a paragraph or something. Many paragraphs is it? Like yeah. I mean, there's there's really socially acceptable ways to do this. Like like, you can say, hey, man. That's cool tattoo. You mind if I if I read it real quick? What's it say? What does it say? And maybe they'll just tell you. Hopefully, they got it memorized. Yeah. Or they really needed it memorized, and they just decided to write it on themselves. Oh, man. It'd real bad. Resuscitate.

Actually, that would be it'd be super awkward if they didn't just tell me, and then it was like a paragraph long. And so then they gotta stand there while I read it. And then Yeah. I'm like and then you say, could you read that for a little paragraph too? Yeah. Waiting for your reaction, which is underwhelming. You're like, oh, oh, that's what you decided, I guess. So you wrote that poem? Yeah. Just ask. I think that's probably the Or it's written really difficult to read, and then you're standing there squinting at it. People do like to go with overly fancy letters when they tend to. Or if it's written like the metal album covers where it's it's all blended together into one mash of squiggles. Yeah. You've seen that? Yeah. That's

like if a a a feminine person, a woman has a shirt on with something on the chest, they want you to read it. But it's like, I don't really feel comfortable looking down there and staring Right. When you don't know if I'm staring past the words or reading that nice paragraph you have.

So you just kinda, you know, ignore it, but that's not what the question is. But it's just like, it's there are awkward moments. You're like, yeah. I wanna say I noticed your shirt, but I don't think I should. I mean, it is true that every curiosity you have does not have to be satisfied. Maybe you just don't get to know. You know? Like, lift up your shirt. I don't want read the rest. I mean, I I'm sure tattoos are a are a a subject that could bear out a lot of conversation, but, like, I put that tattoo on there for me. Right? So, like, I don't want you reading up my sleeve or whatever. You know? Like, you're just gonna have to be content with the mystery on what's happening.

Secular says, when in doubt, always ask permission before oggling. If you don't, your admiration could be misconstrued, which could get you in trouble depending upon where the tattoo is located. We gotta do one more. Yeah. I mean, did you you said tattoos are for you? That's kinda weird. Yeah. Do you really? I mean,

I think most people I know that got tattoos is for them. Then put it on your butt cheek. Well, I can't read it back there. Yeah. But you do I mean, you put it on your arm and you wear it's like a sleeveless shirt. It's for everybody. No. I put it my arm and wear a sleeveless shirt so I can see it. Yeah. I it's for everybody, though. Go mad. Saying I make a sandwich. Put it on the counter. Now it's everybody's sandwich. Nobody knows this. I don't I don't know, man. I feel like I doesn't it feel like it's inviting attention? Yeah. I mean, so is a good hairstyle or white teeth or bad teeth and a terrible hairstyle. Takes Either one invites attention. And somebody walks by and they see your hair and you say, look away. It's not your business. That's

what you're saying. No. I'm just saying the original intent was not to in. Was not to garner attention. I know. But, like,

as soon as you leave the house, I feel like you're subjecting yourself to people wanting to take a look. I mean, that's true with everything, not just tattoos. That's a realistic realistic hairstyle. Like, you people who, like, do their hair pretty funky, you think that's for them too? Yeah. You think it's all a cry for attention? Yeah. You think every person that has a tattoo is a cry for attention?

No. No. But, like, I think you have to recognize this, like or something. If you put it on display, I feel like you're it's like you've made yourself a walking zoo. People are gonna see it and go, boy, that's curious. I'm gonna take a look and have questions. I'm saying that the reaction that people wanna see it being upset about it is dumb, but your your initial driving factor was not necessarily, hey. Look at me. I got a tattoo. Okay. Okay. Yeah. I mean, it's and and being tattoo is pretty common. It's not like you're the only guy out there with a tattoo. Yeah. I think most people want someone to bring it up. Hey. Tell me about your tattoo. Yeah. Oh, I'm so glad you asked me into that. Yeah. True. Holy cow. Okay. We gotta read this one, though, because it seems like drama, and I wanna know. I'm ready. Dear life from the path. It's windy. Few months ago, I offered to help a longtime friend with some landscaping.

The area to be landscaped is tiny. I was concerned a professional landscaper would overcharge her. She contacted a landscaper anyway, not to hire him, but to pick his brain. Okay. When he arrived, it was obvious he didn't want the job, and she didn't offer it to him. She took me up on my offer. She then procrastinated for a couple months, during which time I got busy with other stuff. But I carved out time for her, and we sat down to look at her project. She confessed she had no experience with landscaping and plant selection, and she needed my help with that too. After she poo pooed the most viable suggestions I offered, we proceeded to look at the plants, Lots of plants, none of which she liked. After a few frustrating hours, she mentioned she just plant what she had originally thought about planting. I told her if she did that, she did not need my help. She told me I needed more patience, and

and had I she known, I wouldn't help her. She would have hired the landscaper after all. It wasn't true. She had never any intentions of hiring him. I told her she needed to be more decisive. And even though she had told me she needed my experience, she wasn't accepting of it. Oh, boy. She also couldn't see that she had wasted hours of my time. We've barely spoken since. So am I in the wrong here? Oh, boy.

Yeah. This is a classic, I'm the professional here. You're gonna listen to me. And they go, I don't really want that. And you're like, fine. You don't want a professional's help? Then you're on your own. How could you waste all my times? Wait. You think the the lady who offered to help is actually a legitimate landscape professional? No. Oh. But well well versed, we'll we'll put it. Yeah. Yeah. Not just a a plant novice.

So so I try try of course, I mean, I suppose I could come up with a relative example to myself, but, like, someone says, hey. I need your help picking out light fixtures or whatever. And I'm like, well, here's what you're going for. Here's the coverage you want. Here's what I would do. And they go, no. We're gonna go for these pendant lights that only cover, like, two foot old. I'm like, you're not gonna be able to see anything in this room if you do that. Yeah. Your ideas are dumb. Like, we looked at lights for six hours, and you picked pendant lights anyway against my advice. Yeah.

And so, like, the better part of me goes, what's your house? I mean, you want pendants in there? Put pendants in there. Sounds good. I don't know that I'd be mad about the time wasted. We had a a conversation with a friend for five, six hours if just because they didn't agree with me. Yeah. Okay. So what wait. What was the final question then?

Am I wrong in this thing? Yeah. I mean, you handled it poorly. Certainly. Yeah. Dev yeah. Yeah. But, I mean, I mean, your friend sounds like a weasel too.

I mean, it's like some some couples can't do remodeling together. Maybe some friends just can't do landscaping together. Yeah. Just do something different. I mean, tiny are we talking? Like, a one hosta would have covered it? I mean, we put a lot of effort into this. I don't know how your first choice is in a hosta. I mean, those things are fantastic. Just put them in and then see you know, give it a year. Always start with a hosta and then wait a year. See what happens. They grow back all the time. They spread out, cover more ground, and you bet you don't have to pay no attention to It's like a yard toupee. Yeah. It is what it is. Oh, it is. Yeah. Yeah. A hosta is a is a yard toupee. Then people drive by your house and go, look at that guy. He just wants attention. Yeah. They got he put three pieces out there just to draw attention to himself. Look at my hostas. Talk to me. I'm special. I mean, that's what they call it. They call it the curb appeal. You're trying to get a little little snazz out on your on your Or place. I just like hostas.

I got a yard tattoo, and you drive by going boo. At look at that guy with no self esteem want me to talk about the hostas. Or he might just like hostess. Who's to say? It's I seem like the former.

Okay. Segular says, no. You are not in the wrong. No good deed goes unpunished. Consider yourself lucky that you have barely spoken since. Wow. And do not then do not broach the subject again unless you want to experience more frustration. Wow. Somebody took their ball and went home. Oh, gosh. Like,

so, like, what would you have what's the recommendation? After she says, you spent a lot of time hanging out with her and she says, nah. I think I'm just gonna go with I with what I wanted at the start. You just go, sounds good. It's your place. Yeah. You need help you need help installing it? You need help digging the holes or whatever? But what if they what if she says, but let's let's maybe try again next week, and we'll look at some more stuff. Like, there's a point where you go, hey. You know, I'm not sure you need me here for this. You know, these are kind of since it's really just up to you, let me make sure you know where to look and all the different options that are out there. I'll use my knowledge and wits to make sure you have that at your disposal. But why don't you take a look and then get back to me? And, let me know what you wanna do. I suppose the crafter boy, they had the attitude that they took. That's, I suppose, the problem. They said, hey. If you're not gonna help me at all, I should have just hired that landscaper after they had taken the time to, like, speak for four hours on the subject. Yeah. And they're like, you've been no helping me at all. So, like, they're mad because They're underappreciated. Yeah. Correct. Yeah. And so yeah. I mean, I've had that totally happening before. It's like you go do, you know, some work for somebody, and, like, they just, they didn't appreciate it. You thought you were doing a good thing, and it turned out to be nothing but a hassle, and you're like, I just won't do that again. You know? I,

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