Introduce Jesus vs dress up like Jesus; Mike's checklist confession

Ben's distinction: are you introducing them to get to know Jesus, or trying to dress them up to look like Jesus? Rules are easier than relationship — getting to know Jesus requires denying yourself and dropping your agenda. Mike's confession: he caught himself making a checklist on a long drive — 'this is a fool's parade... if I could fix this on my own, I'd have done it' — and decided to concentrate on loving God: 'I don't know that I really love God.' He hides in his Bible; an hour of quiet time with God scares him; he spends more time thinking about his sin than his Savior, and Googles answers instead of asking Jesus.