Dear LFTP: the niece who never sent thank-you notes

• My niece never sent thank-you notes for her shower or wedding gifts and lied about them being lost. Should I confront her or let it go?

A listener is upset that her niece never sent thank-you notes for bridal-shower or wedding gifts, lied about them being lost in the mail, and asks whether to confront her. The hosts advise letting it go and examining motives: gifts are given because the giver wants to give, not to earn a note. The Secular answer blames the niece's upbringing and advises making note of it for future baby showers rather than confronting.