Dear LFTP: grandparents and a granddaughter afraid of failing
- How should grandparents encourage a perfectionist granddaughter who is afraid of failing?
A host reads a Dear LFTP letter from grandparents, nearly 80, who took their granddaughters (16 and 13) on a two-week European cruise; 16-year-old Megan, a straight-A perfectionist, confessed she is afraid of failing. The hosts advise: the bar is doing your best, not perfection, and what matters is that she knows she is loved. The Secular answer adds: assure her your love never changes whether she succeeds or fails, and point her to her parents or a school counselor.
More on Identity
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Confetti and lasers: what should God's people be known for?
- Do we want to be known as the confetti and lasers people?
- What should God's people be known for?
Ben redirects to the docket's denomination question: when someone hears Silas's church described as 'the confetti and lasers people,' should that sting?
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers
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The world as opposition, normalized sin, and identity
- Does your generation push back at the idea of sin?
A young woman observes that college ministries frame the world as the opposition rather than the mission field, giving anxious young Christians something concrete to grip.
From No. 576 · Get A Dog
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Does God affirm our struggles or call us to repent of them?
- Does God affirm our struggles or call us to repent of them?
Mike frames two camps: one that says God affirms our struggles as-is, another that says He calls us to repent of what is in our control.
From No. 534 · The Antagonistic Bison
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Fear, guilt, self-deprecation, and identity
- How should Christians handle guilt and self-deprecation without excusing sin?
The room digs into why failure over little things feels crushing: self-imposed expectations versus rightful ones, and the guilt that follows addiction relapses.
From No. 498 · The Tennessee Birdwalk