Secular's answer and Dear LFTP: the waiter said 'you guys'
- Is it insulting for a server to address a table of women as 'you guys'?
Secular's answer to the first letter: the couple will be happier if she stops obsessing; if the attention ever makes the husband uncomfortable he can say so or involve his supervisor. The second letter: a woman was lunching with a group of women when the waiter addressed them as 'you guys', and she wants a less insulting form of address. The hosts say nobody's femininity was actually challenged, argue hypersensitivity costs more connection than it gains, and riff on pronouns and door-holding. Secular's answer: 'guys' is decidedly casual; the young server didn't intend insult.
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