Dear LFTP: the roommate's boyfriend moved in

• My roommate's boyfriend has effectively moved in — should I stick out the lease, have him pay a portion of my rent, or just move out?

The second Dear LFTP letter: after an ex cheated and ended the relationship, a listener signed a one-year lease with a coworker friend — then the friend's ex, father of her nine-year-old, effectively moved in from day one, with family dinners and nightly stays. Eight months in, the listener is paying half the rent as a third wheel. The hosts advise moving out, suggesting the boyfriend take over her rent, and agree charging him rent now in arrears is pointless. The Secular answer agrees: the time to insist on rent was seven months ago, paid in arrears — which sparks a running joke when a host addressed as Mike admits he has never heard the word 'arrears.'