Dear LFTP: thirty-five years of pining and the 'Dan Hudson' reveal

• Is thirty-five years of yearning for a man love or lust?

A Dear LFTP letter: for 35 years the writer has carried feelings for a church minister who lied about his personal life and married someone else. The room reads it as obsession with a fantasy — 'you're in love with the negative space that a human is existing in' — not love. The letter's last sentence — 'Oh, by the way, his name is Dan Hudson' — triggers jokes at their co-host Dan's expense ('Dan, she's been pining after you for thirty five years'). Secular's answer is read: she is in love with an idealized projection and is wasting her time.