Dear LFTP letter: memory-care mom and staff nicknames

• Is it disrespectful for memory-care staff to call my mother 'granny,' 'grandma,' or 'mama' when she never went by those names, and how do I correct them?

The reader reads the fourth letter: the writer's mother, in memory care with advancing Alzheimer's, is being called 'granny,' 'grandma,' and even 'mama' by staff, though she never went by those names — she was 'Mimi' to the grandkids. The writer worries about correcting the staff without seeming rude. The hosts side strongly with the family: ask staff to use her real name, model the correction kindly, and escalate to the facility director if needed — but don't let an outsider rename your mother. They read the secular answer, which advises a direct, respectful request to the care team.