Dear LFTP: boyfriend Richard takes his frustrations out on the letter-writer
- My boyfriend Richard takes his frustrations out on me and refuses counseling — what do I do?
Advice letter from a woman in a 14-year on-and-off, now long-distance relationship with 'Richard,' who picks fights over inconsequential things (e.g., his missing dog, her mentioning nice weather) and refuses counseling. The hosts' advice: get counseling yourself, but the relationship should end — he's not marriage material right now, and you can't mold someone into what they aren't. The secular answer is read afterward: the problem is she tolerates the emotional abuse, shaped by her alcoholic mother's unpredictable behavior; its closing advice to keep the romance long-distance is mocked as terrible.
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