Dear LFTP: grandma's pre-written thank-you notes

• Is it a breach of etiquette to enclose a self-addressed stamped thank-you note with grandchildren's gifts?

A grandmother asks if it's a breach of etiquette to enclose self-addressed stamped pre-written thank-you notes with gifts for unresponsive grandchildren. The hosts call it inappropriate, rude, and dumb - a passive-aggressive move the kids will see through. The bit spirals into an extended grandma roleplay where Boova ('Troy') is the overweight grandson told to lay on the floor so he won't break the couch, bringing novelty-sized items to Christmas. The Secular columnist, from the same generation, calls it a great idea as a last resort - which the hosts reject: get on Facebook, that's how you'll get your thanks now.