Dear LFTP: the Valentine's Day standoff
- How do I tell my boyfriend that Valentine's Day matters to me without making things worse?
A host reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman living with her boyfriend of two and a half years, who calls Valentine's Day a manufactured holiday and never buys her cards or flowers, and asks how to tell him it matters without making things worse. The advice: she is giving him everything with no commitment, so he has no reason to pursue her — move out, find Jesus, then date; Roloff recommends Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages. Secular's answer cites an NPR report on the holiday's roots in ancient Rome — the emperor Claudius executing two Valentines, Pope Gelasius folding it into Lupercalia — and suggests lowering the bar.
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Dear LFTP: the man in his forties and the workplace breakup
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
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Dear LFTP #1: the boyfriend who wants to move in
- My boyfriend was evicted and wants to move in — should I let him?
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Dear LFTP: the verbally abusive 'man of your dreams'
- I love him but don't want to be in another abusive relationship — what should I do?
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