Dear LFTP: 'my money is mine' in marriage
- Where did the attitude of 'any money I earn is mine' in a marriage or live-in situation get started?
A host reads a listener letter ('wondering in Washington') asking where young husbands' attitude that 'any money I earn is mine' came from, contrasted with his own 40-year marriage of shared money and discussed purchases. The hosts agree couples should treat money as shared and talk about it early (one suggests 'three dates in'), with comedy about buying motorcycles and a Chewbacca suit. The 'Secular' advice distinguishes cohabitation (separate finances prudent) from marriage (one unit) and notes a cultural sense of disposability.
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