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Dear LFTP August 10, 2026 · 1:13:44 · 9 min

Dear LFTP: the basement musician whose wife never asks him to play

  • Am I asking too much to expect my wife to ask me to play, or should I just let it go and stop writing songs?

Mike reads a letter from a married-31-years basement musician and songwriter whose non-musical wife has never once asked him to play — he wonders if he's asking too much or should stop writing. The hosts sympathize (Dan's wife Cheryl never asked him to play an episode; Ben's wife doesn't listen either) but call the quit-writing ultimatum heavy-handed: it isn't the bellwether of the marriage, though being asked would mean something. Secular's answer: she was never a music lover; keep writing if it satisfies you.

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