Dear LFTP — letters 2–3: retirement party, sisters

• Is it appropriate for a family to host a retirement party for its own member?
• What is a good reply to boost a daughter's self-confidence when she is told she looks like her mother's sister?

Letter 2: a wife asks whether it is appropriate for families to host a retirement party for her husband (14 years at a non-profit); the hosts say have it wherever you want, and secular's advice is skipped. Letter 3: a 75-year-old mother and her 50-year-old daughter are told they look like sisters; the daughter asks if that means she looks old. Secular's advice: people say it because you strongly resemble each other, and it implies you look much younger than your years.