Lie #7: pretending to really love people

The seventh lie: Christians 'insidiously and barbarically' lie when they pretend to really love the other person while dismissing their story, not listening, or reducing them to labels and opponents. One host admits it's more disingenuous to placate than to be honest. Dan (named in the audio) confesses he has labeled whole groups of people instead of hearing their stories, and recounts the hosts attending an atheist conference years earlier: outsiders argued with attendees while the hosts prayed for them and ate breakfast with them. The room agrees apologetics are conversation starters, not finishers: 'if you win and they lose and they don't still love Jesus, you still lost.' A joke lands: 'take up your cross and follow this flowchart.'