Love
60 conversations where the hosts get into love.
60 conversations
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Confetti and lasers: what should God's people be known for?
- Do we want to be known as the confetti and lasers people?
- What should God's people be known for?
Ben redirects to the docket's denomination question: when someone hears Silas's church described as 'the confetti and lasers people,' should that sting?
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers
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Dear LFTP: saying "I love you" too soon
- Is there a recommended timeframe for saying "I love you" in a new relationship?
Mike reads a letter from a man who reconnected with a woman he dated in the 1980s and told her he loved her too soon, then tried to walk it back to "caring and affection."
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Putting orthodoxy over love
- Does holding orthodox doctrine conflict with loving people?
The hosts take up the list's 'putting orthodoxy over love' item. One host argues orthodoxy IS love — communicating doctrine God intended people to know is itself an act of love — but warns against wielding doctrine as a tool of manipulation without the heart of God.
From No. 458 · 12 to 13 Mistakes From Wildin
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Church charity and the discernment line
- Is it wrong for a church to ask help-seekers to attend a service before giving aid?
Mike reads 2 Thessalonians 3:9-11 — "if anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat" — and the hosts revisit the Canadian church that offers a grocery gift card to help-seekers…
From No. 452 · False Teachers and Freeloaders
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Dear LFTP: is there such a thing as love at first sight?
- Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Third letter: 'Is there such a thing as love at first sight?' The hosts say infatuation, attraction, and lust can strike instantly, but love carries the connotation of time - real…
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What to do with Boova: can you love someone without liking them?
- Can you love someone the way Jesus calls you to without liking them?
The debut of a new advice segment named for Boova (speaker-2 in the transcript; other hosts address him as 'Boova' on air).
From No. 312 · The Shack
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Dear LFTP: wife's infidelity, paternity, and conditional love
- My wife cheated and only one of my children is biologically mine — how do I move forward?
A Dear LFTP letter from an army veteran whose wife's affairs left only his youngest child biologically his — he loves them all but feels his life destroyed — draws counsel not to…
From No. 264 · Seven Reasons to Skip the Lottery
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Dear LFTP: 16-year-old wants to attend a friend's wedding against her mom's wishes
- How can a 16-year-old convince her mom to let her attend a friend's wedding?
A 16-year-old writes that her grammar-school friend is marrying at 18, she was invited, but her mother forbids her to go or even talk to the friend.
From No. 262 · The Hammer Dulcimer
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Dear LFTP: sister Laura and the suffering kids
- Should the letter writer stay out of his sister Laura's mess (cheating, four kids at grandma's) or step in for the sake of the nieces and nephews?
A letter about the writer's sister Laura: four kids with a 'deadbeat' boyfriend, living at their 57-year-old mother's house, cheating, and the mother venting to the writer.
From No. 256 · Six Reasons to Slow Down
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Kim Davis part 1: what does the average man do Tuesday morning
- What should the average Christian man do, think, and say in response to the Kim Davis situation?
The hosts take up the framed question directly: what should the average Christian man do, think, and say tomorrow morning about the Kentucky clerk jailed for refusing to issue same-sex marriage licenses?
From No. 249 · Kim Davis
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Dear LFTP: Wendy, the kids, and staying
- How can a man convince his girlfriend Wendy, who is pushing him away, that he will not abandon her and her children the way other men have?
A listener in a relationship with Wendy, who is pushing him away out of fear he will abandon her children like other men have, asks how to make her understand he is staying.
From No. 246 · Nine Sins the Church Is Okay With
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Dear LFTP: beer, marriage, and a sober husband
- Am I doomed not to be able to drink anymore to support my husband's sobriety, or can I have an occasional beer?
A listener writes that her husband got a DUI, stopped drinking, and attends AA -- but she still enjoys an occasional beer and feels guilty, wondering if she is doomed to abstain or is being selfish.
From No. 166 · Guilt vs. Conviction
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Hard question: loving people you don't like
- As a Christian, how do you love people you just don't like or can't get along with?
The hosts take up the announced question: what is a Christian's responsibility toward people they find irritating or can't get along with?
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Landing it: love, not vulnerability; beware quippy phrases
The rounding thought: 'I think that God does want to be in a love relationship with you... I said it and it irked a bunch of people and I think it's right' - with two cautions:…
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Church hurt and recklessly loving the antagonistic
Ben says he has met real turds in Christian communities but never concludes the Lord failed him — “Steve has failed me” — because a healthy view of Jesus makes you gracious toward fallible humans.
From No. 588 · hypokritēs
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The recovery-house dare: tell that man you love him
- Would my friends dare me to tell someone I love and appreciate him?
A host tells a New Year story from a Jesus-based recovery program: after a rough day, a friend dared a resident, 'I bet you don't have the balls to tell that man you love him' — meaning drop your pride and tell a staff member you appreciate him as a Christian brother.
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Loving people in thirty minutes or ten years
A host argues that time spent matters less than genuinely loving people, whether in a thirty-minute conversation or a decade as a pen pal, using a hypothetical Jerry touched by a…
From No. 494 · 500-ish
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Image problem points: own your failures, drop the Christianese, check the hate
The article walkthrough continues. 'People screw up': own it fast, apologize, make amends — and the hosts warn against the flip side, weaponizing others' failures and covering things up to protect dollars, budgets, and headcounts, which perverts the church's role.
From No. 477 · Shofar, Shogood
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The Secular answer on the tobacco bargain
The Secular answer is read: if the husband reneged on the deal, the wife is free to do as she wishes — 'it may be time to revisit that deal you made.'
From No. 434 · Rebuilding Tower of Babel
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Performing integrity versus living it
Mike confesses that Christians are skilled at making love and integrity look real, birthday calls, grand gestures, while phoning it in; the real joy is in actually putting others first, prompted by the Holy Spirit.
From No. 407 · Can We Always Be Like Jesus?
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Love among the godless; fear and shame are not Jesus
The thread says he found love among godless people while the church burdens people with fear, shame, and guilt.
From No. 371 · 40 and Out
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Hosts answer: love requires choice; trust God's character
The hosts answer that the question carries the hidden assumption creation wasn't worth it: without choice there can be no love, and God's redemption of fallen people is itself a demonstration of love.
From No. 230 · Why Can’t We Handle Marriage?
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Lie #7: pretending to really love people
The seventh lie: Christians 'insidiously and barbarically' lie when they pretend to really love the other person while dismissing their story, not listening, or reducing them to labels and opponents.
From No. 225 · Seven Lies, Part Two
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Discussion: bold truth versus creepy evangelism
The hosts answer Boova's two questions about boldness. They argue truth on its own is not love: tracts, pamphlets, and pressured sinner's prayers are 'hostage situation' evangelism that drives people away.
From No. 187 · Can Christians Have Hobbies?