Dear LFTP: wife, dress-up dates, and "sexy fun time"
- Is the husband being selfish for asking his wife to dress up for a date night and intimacy?
Mike reads a listener letter from "Hoping in Minnesota": his wife of 15 years has poor self-image and laughs off his request for a dressed-up date night plus "late night fun." The hosts conclude the husband is likely going about it wrong — plan the evening, get a babysitter, lay out a dress, lead — and that her resistance may signal something else (self-consciousness, relationship issues). The "Secular" advice (that it's fine to ask and wrong of her to belittle him) gets pushback for missing the point.
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
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Dear LFTP: the basement musician whose wife never asks him to play
- Am I asking too much to expect my wife to ask me to play, or should I just let it go and stop writing songs?
Mike reads a letter from a married-31-years basement musician and songwriter whose non-musical wife has never once asked him to play — he wonders if he's asking too much or should stop writing.
From No. 597 · Maybe A Word From God
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Dear LFTP: wife mocks husband's bladder problem in public
- How should I respond when my wife mocks me and my bladder problem in public?
Mike reads a letter from a man married three years whose wife calls him vulgar names in public and makes his bladder-control problem into comedy.