Dear LFTP: the serial dater
- Should I try harder to convince my friends this relationship is different, or just enjoy the love I am in?
A self-described serial dater, engaged once and proposed to three times, never in a relationship longer than a year, says she is four months into a love that feels different, but nobody around her takes it seriously, and asks whether to work harder to convince them or just enjoy it. The hosts land on just enjoying it and letting time do the convincing; her friends' skepticism is earned and fair, since she has shown everyone a track record. One shares moving his own wedding date up and letting people think what they would until time proved otherwise. The 'secular answer' agrees: the harder you try to sell it, the more resistant the buyer becomes. A host's analogy, an alcoholic announcing 'I quit drinking yesterday' after ten years, lands the point that credibility takes time.
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