Dear LFTP: the husband who will not shower
- My 71-year-old husband rides his bike 30-50 miles a day but will not shower - what can I do?
A host reads a Dear LFTP letter: married 49 years, moved to Florida, her 71-year-old husband Ron rides his bike 30-50 miles daily plus yard work but will not shower afterward, just changing into nighttime clothes; she is sensitive to odors, air fresheners are not enough, and their three grown sons will not intervene. The hosts' advice: just talk to him directly - one would hide his clothes until he showers - and send the oldest son in for a man-to-man word. The 'Secular' answer wonders if the change is recent (possible dementia or fading senses) and offers 'ultimatum or ride it out,' which the hosts reject as absurd after 49 years of marriage.
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