Dear LFTP: dating and communication styles
- Is there a way for both partners to be happy when dealing with difficult conversations, and what can be done to make an avoidant partner more comfortable?
A host reads a second Dear LFTP letter: the writer has seen a man for six or seven months and dated him for three, but he avoids confrontation and communicates poorly while she is very communicative. The hosts probe whether it is an actual barrier or just a style difference — some people need 24 hours to process, and quick-tongued partners mistake slowness for avoidance. They advise not overreacting when he does speak, giving the young relationship time, but treating a total refusal to engage as a red flag. The 'Secular' answer suggests the man's single history may stem from the same avoidance; the hosts agree most people struggle with uncomfortable conversations and call it normal.
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