Dear LFTP: the job offer and the boyfriend
- Is it selfish to accept a job three hours away when a boyfriend threatens to break up over long distance?
A host reads a Dear LFTP letter from a listener dating 'Jason' for a year and eight months, who has been offered a long-sought job three hours away with retirement and pension benefits; Jason refuses to try long distance and says the move will end the relationship, and the listener asks if accepting would be selfish. The hosts answer no: the decision reveals rather than causes a problem, and an ultimatum of 'do what I say or we're done' is controlling. They add that three hours is not that far and that a partner who will not move, marry, or even try is giving his answer. A tangent notes none of the hosts has a pension.
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Dear LFTP: the man in his forties and the workplace breakup
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
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Dear LFTP #1: the boyfriend who wants to move in
- My boyfriend was evicted and wants to move in — should I let him?
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Dear LFTP: the verbally abusive 'man of your dreams'
- I love him but don't want to be in another abusive relationship — what should I do?
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