Dear LFTP: the nice guy with a string of failed relationships
- I'm a 34-year-old nice guy with a string of failed relationships — the women say I'm amazing but leave or cheat. What am I doing wrong?
Mike reads the first Dear LFTP letter: a 34-year-old man, kind and communicative, with a string of failed relationships — the women call him amazing yet leave or cheat — now ready to give up; he wants a partner who may become 'my queen.' The hosts' advice: he may be 'a bit of a pansy' — passively overcompensating, offering only what a very good friend offers (a listening ear, paying for dinner) rather than a partner's strength and leadership; stop looking, work on loving Jesus and seeking first the kingdom, and let God ordain it. The 'secular answer' (read aloud): something is clearly wrong — go fishing in different waters, stop trying so hard, ask married friends for tweaks — which sparks a 'tweets vs tweaks' mixup and talk of Plenty of Fish and Tinder. They also note the letter's own red flag: he and the women both agree he's amazing, which walks in on a high horse.
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Dear LFTP: the man in his forties and the workplace breakup
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
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Dear LFTP #1: the boyfriend who wants to move in
- My boyfriend was evicted and wants to move in — should I let him?
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Dear LFTP: the verbally abusive 'man of your dreams'
- I love him but don't want to be in another abusive relationship — what should I do?
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