Dear LFTP: the lecturing fiance
- What should I do when my fiance lectures me, apologizes without changing, and says it is my fault?
- Is the 'secular answer' right that this relationship is a red flag for verbal abuse?
A host reads a listener letter: her fiance of four years lectures her, apologizes within the hour, keeps repeating the pattern, and makes it her fault. The hosts suspect the letter is one-sided and note she never says what the lectures are about; one advises she try apologizing first. The 'secular answer' calls it a red flag for verbal abuse and urges rethinking the engagement, which the hosts call dramatic and unsupported -- while conceding the described pattern would be classic abuse if true. A host confesses using loaded words on his own wife days earlier, and a running joke about the word 'sculching' detours into The Lion King.
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