Dear LFTP: remarrying later in life

• How do I find balance between my friends and my future wife's enmeshed family when remarrying later in life?

Mike reads a long letter from a divorced man dating 'Stephanie,' frustrated that her life revolves around her family and ex-husband's gatherings while he feels like an outsider. A host calls him 'a daft man,' later echoed as Ben's phrase, for missing that she wants exactly what he wants: her people. The hosts argue remarriage at 50 cannot look like marriage at 22; you marry the whole situation. Secular's advice, to ignore what she says and watch what she does because she is not right for him, is dismissed by the hosts as garbage.