Dear LFTP: the no-show relatives and the catered dinners
- How should we greet relatives who RSVP'd to our party, never showed, and never explained, nine months ago?
Mike reads a second Dear LFTP letter: relatives RSVP'd to a hosted party last year, never showed, gave no reason, and the hosts paid for their dinners; how should they greet them at an upcoming event? The hosts counsel just saying hello normally, note nine months of silence makes the grudge petty, and joke about Dan-and-Ben's move of running away. The Secular answer calls the relatives rude and inconsiderate and advises a calm confrontation plus guest-list removal, which the hosts mock as queen-of-Tibet energy. The discussion widens into Facebook-generation expectations of constant updates and a riff on churches publicly shaming absent members and interrupting worship for giving appeals.
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