Dear LFTP: the hairdresser's brother and the relapse
- Should I confront my hairdresser about not disclosing her brother's crack cocaine relapse sooner, or let it go?
Ben cues advice time and Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a widowed listener: her hairdresser, former neighbor, and friend recommended her unemployed brother for home repairs and nudged a relationship, then revealed the brother is back on crack cocaine. The hosts agree the sister had no duty to disclose a past relapse sooner, that it is not the listener's story to tell, and that she should let it go and keep her hairdresser. Mike then reads the Secular answer ('call the police,' 'do you own a whip?'), which advises asking calmly but being less available, prompting a mock passive-aggressive breakup skit.
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Dear LFTP 1: the burned-out friend
- How do I approach a long friendship that has become one-sided and draining when the friend has anxiety, depression, OCD, narcissism, and a drinking problem?
Ben reads a letter from a listener burned out by a decade-long friendship with someone suffering anxiety, depression, OCD, narcissism, and a drinking problem who never asks how the listener is doing.
From No. 588 · hypokritēs
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Dear LFTP: husband's slot-machine addiction and a lost life's savings
- How should an 80-something wife respond when her husband's slot-machine addiction gambled away everything?
A letter from a woman in her eighties: her husband developed a slot-machine addiction, gambled away every asset from 58 years of marriage, and their son bailed them out as trustee of the land and home while doling out a tiny allowance.
From No. 581 · Silly Rabbit | Christianity, Culture, and Navigating Social Expectations
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Dear LFTP: dessert-free days, discipline, and soul over dirt
- How do I stop eating dessert on days I deemed dessert-free?
A listener allowed dessert only Monday, Wednesday, and Friday and can't stop on the other days. The hosts land on the simplest answer: you just stop; Dan's Atkins bars,…
From No. 581 · Silly Rabbit | Christianity, Culture, and Navigating Social Expectations
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Dear LFTP: AA member who witnessed a life-support withdrawal
- How do I come to terms with accidentally witnessing a fellow AA member's life-support withdrawal?
An AA member writes that while visiting a hospitalized fellow member with cookies, he arrived at the exact moment doctors withdrew life support and witnessed the family's raw grief; he now fears he intruded and caused harm.
From No. 568 · Like Jesus