Dear LFTP: the meddling in-laws and the deficient spouse
- My husband complains about me to his parents, who trash me — what do I do about the meddling in-laws?
A Dear LFTP letter from a wife whose husband of twenty years complains about her to his parents; she has found messages where the in-laws called her 'a bad mother, terrible person, crazy evil, the devil.' The hosts agree she doesn't have meddling in-laws, she has a deficient spouse: he is soliciting family backup instead of protecting his marriage. Advice includes limiting one trusted confidant (never family), the need for an honest protector-of-the-family conversation, accountability with the right kind of men, and connecting to Jesus and a faith community since 'the only way this changes' is a heart shift. One host asks Dan directly what he would say to her.
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Telling your spouse about past sin: pornography, the granola bar, and the Holy Spirit
- If you have repented of a sin your spouse never knew about, do you have to tell them?
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- Have you ever felt spiritually meh, what does it feel like, and how do you get out of it?
The main discussion: what it means to feel "spiritually meh" — not rebelling against God, but not wanting to do the prayer, Bible reading, and other connecting practices you know are good.
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- What does it mean to make disciples — is it just giving information, or does it involve accountability and structure?
The hosts take up the third topic: two extremes of disciple-making. On one side, being only an information provider and leaving everything to the Spirit; on the other, running…
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