Accountability
110 conversations where the hosts get into accountability.
110 conversations
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Do accountability partners actually work?
- Do accountability partners actually do anything?
Mike raises his accountability-partners question: the standard dude-circle advice to get a buddy to hold you accountable for Bible reading, porn, church attendance, and drinking.
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers
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Telling your spouse about past sin: pornography, the granola bar, and the Holy Spirit
- If you have repented of a sin your spouse never knew about, do you have to tell them?
The hosts work through whether a repented-of sin a spouse never knew about must be confessed: a pornography habit versus a stolen granola bar from fifteen years ago.
From No. 579 · Wanted: Paul and Hope | Paul’s Persecution of Christians and Radical Redemption
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Feeling spiritually meh: causes, experiences, and ways through
- Have you ever felt spiritually meh, what does it feel like, and how do you get out of it?
The main discussion: what it means to feel "spiritually meh" — not rebelling against God, but not wanting to do the prayer, Bible reading, and other connecting practices you know are good.
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What does it mean to make disciples
- What does it mean to make disciples — is it just giving information, or does it involve accountability and structure?
The hosts take up the third topic: two extremes of disciple-making. On one side, being only an information provider and leaving everything to the Spirit; on the other, running…
From No. 545 · By Invitation Only
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Iron sharpens iron, and the pornography conversation
- How does 'iron sharpens iron' fit alongside 'follow me as I follow Christ'?
The hosts work through 'iron sharpens iron': you cannot hold someone accountable before they're iron — the pre-iron stage only responds to love, not demands.
From No. 545 · By Invitation Only
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Ben's confession: the secret chore-tracking journal
- Is it wrong to keep a personal accountability journal from my wife?
Ben confesses he has been keeping a secret from his wife for about a month: after she raised that she carries too much of the household load on their gravel-dust farm with four…
From No. 526 · Secrets and Topless Dudes
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Dear LFTP: judging versus holding accountable
- Where is the line between not judging someone and holding them accountable for their behavior?
A listener asks where the line is between not judging someone and holding them accountable. The hosts land on posture and permission: accountability is permission-based and works through encouragement, not force — you can't make anyone change.
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Dear LFTP: husband talks filthy to other women
- What should a wife do about her husband's filthy talk toward other women?
A letter-writer describes a husband who makes lewd comments and asks sexual questions of other women and says she ruined his fun when confronted.
From No. 505 · Because of Fussy and Fuzzy
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Dear LFTP: the gooser at the celebration
- Is the gooser's behavior sexual assault, and should I talk to my relative about it?
Mike reads a second Dear LFTP letter: the writer cohosted a celebration where a young man dating a relative was observed goosing half a dozen women on the dance floor, and asks whether it could be sexual assault and whether to talk to the relative.
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Cult warning signs, part one: the always-right leader
- What are the warning signs of a cult masked as a church?
A host reads the BeliefNet article's first warning sign of a cult masked as a church: the pastor or leader is always right, with no tolerance for questions or critical inquiry.
From No. 465 · Cults May Be Wonderful
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Combating spiritual-authority abuse: friends, prayer, and responsibility vs. ownership
- Can spiritual authority be abused, and what do you do about it?
The hosts ask what to do when you suspect you're under abusive spiritual authority. Their counsel: get solid Christian friends outside that church to check your read, pray…
From No. 465 · Cults May Be Wonderful
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Failed sermon illustrations and the heresy sniff test
- How can you tell when a teaching elevates humans over God?
The hosts trade stories of sermon illustrations that flopped and argue Todd's real problem is not bad illustration skills but a need for someone to tell him no.
From No. 455 · Don’t Spit On Folk, Among Other Wisdom
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You cannot be the heavy in someone's life
- Can accountability work if you cannot be the enforcer?
The hosts discuss why accountability fails when you try to be the enforcer: one host's story of accountability with a much bigger man he could not intimidate, a parenting analogy…
From No. 455 · Don’t Spit On Folk, Among Other Wisdom
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Pushback: boundaries, ultimatums, and an active gospel
- Is it ever right to set an ultimatum, or is the line a boundary?
The hosts part company with the article's closing hyper-spiritualization, arguing the gospel already spoke clearly in Proverbs so the sluggard does not need a special revelation to get up and work.
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Dear LFTP: the meddling in-laws and the deficient spouse
- My husband complains about me to his parents, who trash me — what do I do about the meddling in-laws?
A Dear LFTP letter from a wife whose husband of twenty years complains about her to his parents; she has found messages where the in-laws called her 'a bad mother, terrible person, crazy evil, the devil.'
From No. 426 · Confidence in the Holy Spirit
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Dear LFTP: 22, dating, and he won't commit
- Should I move on or wait and see what the future holds?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a 22-year-old dating a man for six months who says she is special but refuses any relationship title, still mentions his ex, and will not say whether he sees a future.
From No. 412 · Interview with Eddie Andrews
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Is there no fear of God anymore?
- Is there no fear of God anymore?
The hosts ask whether anyone fears God anymore, arguing that modern accountability infrastructure tries to replace a missing fear of God.
From No. 387 · Renewing Deuces and Fearing God
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Dear LFTP: a recent grad asks how to help his unhealthy dad
- How do I intervene in my dad's unhealthy lifestyle (food, no exercise, smoking) without seeming disrespectful while living under his roof?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter: a recent college graduate living at home worries about his dad's food addiction, no exercise, and smoking, and asks how to intervene without seeming disrespectful.
From No. 373 · Don’t Wet Your Pants
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Article: '23 Easters and the church is gone'
- Should an atheist be allowed to have 'I'M GOD' on his license plate?
The hosts work through the article Mike found: if current trends continue, mainline Protestantism (Lutheran, Episcopalian, Presbyterian, Methodist) faces a trajectory toward zero…
From No. 345 · Grammys and Cheeseburgers
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Florida pastor scandal: forgiveness versus fitness for ministry
- A pastor was caught in adultery and refuses to resign, saying God has already forgiven him — can he stay in the pulpit?
A host sets the agenda: the presidential executive order discussion and an article about a Tallahassee pastor caught in adultery who refuses to resign, saying God has already forgiven him.
From No. 309 · Forgiveness vs. Fitness
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Dear LFTP: sister-in-law's secret nude social media accounts
- What should a listener do after discovering her sister-in-law's secret social media accounts with nude photos?
A listener recently discovered that her sister-in-law Danny has been posting nude photos of herself on separate, secret social media accounts.
From No. 292 · The Viral Dulcimer
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A megachurch pastor resigns: how should the church respond?
- How should a church healthfully respond when its pastor resigns or falls?
The hosts discuss a recent megachurch pastor resignation (unnamed; a founder of a 20-30k church) — not the circumstances, but how attenders healthfully respond.
From No. 286 · When Pastors Fall
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Pope-style advice: find what stirs you toward God
- Should faith rest on emotion, or on something steadier than feeling?
A host offers tongue-in-cheek 'pope-style' advice: rather than forcing one-size-fits-all discipleship, each person should spend time on the practices that actually stir their…
From No. 277 · Faith and Feeling
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Dear LFTP: nearing-retirement wife of a critical, friendless husband
- What makes a man chronically critical of everyone, and is there any hope he can change?
A wife describes her husband as constantly critical of coworkers, friends, family, and strangers, always right, quick to shift blame; she needs space as they near retirement.
From No. 276 · What Makes a Christian?