Dear LFTP: the 31-year-old who plans for children, not a husband
- Where do I turn next after no one has wanted to marry me?
A 31-year-old former model writes that despite many relationships she has never been engaged and is depressed that no one has wanted to marry her, listing her preparations for motherhood: a college fund, a kid-ready car, and a kid-friendly dog. The hosts answer bluntly that the way she tells it, she is looking for a sperm donor, not a husband: everything centers on what she wants, and a man feels like an inconsequential question mark in her plan. Their counsel is a faithful following of Jesus, finding a good church, and letting a relationship play out naturally. The Secular answer picks up on the same vibe.
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Evaluating the event: Elijah, Josiah, the sign of Jonah, the donuts test
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Dear LFTP: the untidy grandchildren's home
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