Dear LFTP: the donated keyboard
- Should I buy my mom a replacement keyboard, and should I talk to my dad first?
A listener's 88-year-old father donated his 85-year-old mother's keyboard, thinking she no longer used it; she only played when he was away and was devastated, confiding only in the child. The hosts advise buying her another keyboard for her birthday but talking to the dad first rather than springing it — he's likely not as much of a curmudgeon as the framing suggests and may not know she plays. A tangent on aging marriages notes couples get blunt with each other in their fifties through seventies and sweet again around the eighties. The Secular answer suggests telling the dad he is the dominant personality and asking him to check with mom first — the hosts find that awkward and too gracious.
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