Dear LFTP: the step-grandma title

• How should a step-grandparent handle being denied the 'grandma' title?

A letter from a woman whose husband's daughter decreed, eight years after the wedding, that her children may not call their step-grandmother 'grandma.' The hosts diagnose a deeper relationship problem — nobody fights this hard over a title when things are fine — and land on the principle that parenting and grandparenting are not quid pro quo: act like a grandma without demanding the title, and the kids will figure it out when they're old enough. The Secular answer agrees there is nothing positive to be gained by shunning the children. The segment closes with the broader counsel that restricted relationships are about waiting it out and staying faithful in the role anyway.