Marriage: the woman as helper and fighting for the we

• What does it mean for the woman to be a helper to a man?

Ben works through a theory he has been testing in Scripture, prayer, and conversation: the idea that the woman being a 'helper' to a man says more about male frailty than female subservience. He walks through general design differences he observes — men compartmentalizing, women holding everything at once — and reframes marital conflict: stop asking whether your spouse is failing you and start asking whether you are filling the gap so the 'we' stays strong. Nathaniel's example becomes the case study — he agrees to everything as the path of least resistance, which puts his wife in the position of dragging him along. The advice: say yes boldly or no with confidence, never put your wife in the mom position, and have 'we' conversations about things like overtime. It closes with a Pope Francis aside and the Secular-vs-Solomon style judgment that the Pope is a dicey character.