Dear LFTP: the gooser at the celebration
- Is the gooser's behavior sexual assault, and should I talk to my relative about it?
Mike reads a second Dear LFTP letter: the writer cohosted a celebration where a young man dating a relative was observed goosing half a dozen women on the dance floor, and asks whether it could be sexual assault and whether to talk to the relative. The hosts agree the behavior is wildly inappropriate, advise telling the relative, but caution against becoming an advocate for justice on someone else's behalf without their consent: represent the concerns of the people actually impacted, not your own offense, and let adults handle what they want handled. The secular answer suggests discussing it with the relative but frames it as a possible alcohol problem rather than sex addiction.
More on Accountability
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Do accountability partners actually work?
- Do accountability partners actually do anything?
Mike raises his accountability-partners question: the standard dude-circle advice to get a buddy to hold you accountable for Bible reading, porn, church attendance, and drinking.
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers
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Telling your spouse about past sin: pornography, the granola bar, and the Holy Spirit
- If you have repented of a sin your spouse never knew about, do you have to tell them?
The hosts work through whether a repented-of sin a spouse never knew about must be confessed: a pornography habit versus a stolen granola bar from fifteen years ago.
From No. 579 · Wanted: Paul and Hope | Paul’s Persecution of Christians and Radical Redemption
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Feeling spiritually meh: causes, experiences, and ways through
- Have you ever felt spiritually meh, what does it feel like, and how do you get out of it?
The main discussion: what it means to feel "spiritually meh" — not rebelling against God, but not wanting to do the prayer, Bible reading, and other connecting practices you know are good.
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What does it mean to make disciples
- What does it mean to make disciples — is it just giving information, or does it involve accountability and structure?
The hosts take up the third topic: two extremes of disciple-making. On one side, being only an information provider and leaving everything to the Spirit; on the other, running…
From No. 545 · By Invitation Only