Dear LFTP: the retired wife's crossword obsession
- How do I handle my wife's crossword obsession since retirement?
Mike reads a thirty-year-marriage letter: since retiring, his wife does crossword puzzles all day, ignoring him, the kids, and family gatherings. The hosts float several angles — she may not know what to do with new freedom, may be staving off mental decline, or may be an introvert drained by a suddenly always-home husband — and advise wooing her toward shared activities, communicating needs with consideration for hers, and recognizing that most marriages struggle with unmet, unarticulated expectations. The Secular answer — aggressive confrontation and marriage therapy — is judged terrible advice that presumes the worst motives.
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Is Jesus a good leader? The 10 qualities, part one
- Is Jesus a good leader by modern standards?
Mike runs a vague internet search for 'the 10 essential qualities of an effective leader' and the room grades Jesus. 1.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers
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Dear LFTP: the basement musician whose wife never asks him to play
- Am I asking too much to expect my wife to ask me to play, or should I just let it go and stop writing songs?
Mike reads a letter from a married-31-years basement musician and songwriter whose non-musical wife has never once asked him to play — he wonders if he's asking too much or should stop writing.
From No. 597 · Maybe A Word From God
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Dear LFTP: wife mocks husband's bladder problem in public
- How should I respond when my wife mocks me and my bladder problem in public?
Mike reads a letter from a man married three years whose wife calls him vulgar names in public and makes his bladder-control problem into comedy.