Dear LFTP: the difficult son and the defensive husband — 'evil advice'
- How should I handle my husband blaming our 26-year-old son for every problem in our marriage?
A Dear LFTP letter from a 30-year wife: her husband blames their 26-year-old son Isaac for every problem in the marriage, listens to no one, gets defensive, and she is caught in the middle. The hosts grant the husband is probably not a terrible person but a terrible listener; Dan (speaker-0, addressed by name at seg-00687) diagnoses 'several decades of laziness' and urges counseling; Boova (speaker-2, addressed as 'Moova' at seg-00686) reads Secular's answer — the son is an adult, quit defending him, the husband is a bully, consult a marriage and family law attorney — which the room calls evil advice: shallow information cannot support advocating separation, and the real work is language, humility, and recognizing 'we problems' over personal vindication.
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