Dear LFTP: Sarah of Illinois on finding a lasting husband
- I am divorced and in my forties and still want a husband -- should I try online dating or reach out to another state?
A Dear LFTP letter from Sarah in Illinois: divorced, in her forties, still wanting a man in her life, alarmed that the men she meets prefer living alone, and asking whether to try online dating or look in another state -- while admitting she's 'waiting for a divorce to happen.' The hosts push back: multiple husbands leaving suggests a personal-responsibility question, 'waiting for a divorce' means starting with a man who can't stay married, and she may be treating a husband like an accessory -- 'I just want a dude,' 'kinda like you'd like a new pair of AirPods.' Their counsel: do things you personally enjoy, get into a good church where people are merciful about your past, and become someone who builds a man up rather than takes from the relationship.
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