Dear LFTP: Jerome, haunted by his wife's past
- Dear LFTP: how does a wife handle a husband who cannot let go of her pre-marriage past?
Troy reads the first Dear LFTP letter, 'Haunted by the past': a woman whose husband Jerome led her to faith, who confessed a pre-marriage immoral experience, and who now, married, hears him say he cannot let it go and feels he competes with her past. The hosts split: some say Jerome accepted it before marriage so it is his to get over, one defends his honesty as a struggling man asking for help, and they agree he needs an accountability partner and possibly faith-based marriage counseling. Secular's advice is read aloud: stop apologizing, insist on counseling, and if he cannot accept it there is no basis for the marriage.
More on Accountability
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Do accountability partners actually work?
- Do accountability partners actually do anything?
Mike raises his accountability-partners question: the standard dude-circle advice to get a buddy to hold you accountable for Bible reading, porn, church attendance, and drinking.
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers
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Telling your spouse about past sin: pornography, the granola bar, and the Holy Spirit
- If you have repented of a sin your spouse never knew about, do you have to tell them?
The hosts work through whether a repented-of sin a spouse never knew about must be confessed: a pornography habit versus a stolen granola bar from fifteen years ago.
From No. 579 · Wanted: Paul and Hope | Paul’s Persecution of Christians and Radical Redemption
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Feeling spiritually meh: causes, experiences, and ways through
- Have you ever felt spiritually meh, what does it feel like, and how do you get out of it?
The main discussion: what it means to feel "spiritually meh" — not rebelling against God, but not wanting to do the prayer, Bible reading, and other connecting practices you know are good.
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What does it mean to make disciples
- What does it mean to make disciples — is it just giving information, or does it involve accountability and structure?
The hosts take up the third topic: two extremes of disciple-making. On one side, being only an information provider and leaving everything to the Spirit; on the other, running…
From No. 545 · By Invitation Only