Dear LFTP #1: long-distance relationship, parents' guilt
- Should a 30-year-old woman in a long-distance, cross-country relationship move to another country to live with the man, despite her parents' guilt-tripping?
Pants reads a letter from a 30-year-old woman (nicknamed "Two-Two") in a long-distance relationship with a man in another country, considering moving there to live together while her parents guilt her about abandoning them. The hosts advise: don't move in without marriage; decide if it's permanent, get married first, then move. They guess the letter undersells the parents' legitimate concern (they may never have met the man), then read the Secular answer (research women's rights in his country — noted as from Pakistan — before marrying) and respond with a joke: if you marry him, it's permanent; so is God.
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: the single man and the holiday cliques
- Would it be wrong for the lonely single man to start declining holiday invitations?
The first Dear LFTP letter: a single man, happy with his life and plenty of friends and family, dreads the holidays — at Thanksgiving and Christmas gatherings of 15 to 25 people,…
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: the grandma, 'Libby,' and the weight comment
- Was I wrong to mention my concern about Libby's weight?
Mike reads the letter: she moved 2,000 miles to be near her daughter's family; granddaughter 'Libby' was diagnosed with a medical condition and put on weight.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the Mimi letter ('Call Me Hoopi')
- Is it wrong for a grandmother to be upset when her grandson's other grandmother claims the same nickname?
Mike reads the Dear LFTP letter: a grandmother whose two-year-old grandson calls her Mimi — but the other grandmother claimed Mimi for herself, and the daughter-in-law is annoyed and doesn't want 'mom mom' either.