- How should I respond when my husband keeps saying 'you used to be fun'?
A listener ('Mrs. Jagger'), married 10 years with two kids, asks how to answer her husband's repeated dig 'you used to be fun' now that parenting and full-time careers replaced their partying band days. The hosts work both angles: if she has shut down to fun, she should stay open and they should start dating again; but the deeper take is on the husband — a man who pines for his band days instead of taking his role as husband and father is avoiding responsibility, 'wanting the ability to feel important without taking the responsibility.' Verdict: he needs to grow up, she needs to lighten up, and they should find age-appropriate fun together (bowling). A comedy detour looks up the word 'covert' on freedictionary.com.
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Dear LFTP: the basement musician whose wife never asks him to play
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Dear LFTP: wife mocks husband's bladder problem in public
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