Dear LFTP: wallet photos of a deceased girlfriend
- What is the right thing to do with photos of my deceased high school girlfriend — keep them or throw them away?
A listener found an old wallet holding photos of his high-school girlfriend, a close platonic friend until her untimely death years ago. Tossing them feels disrespectful, but he does not need to keep them, and his wife does not care either way — so what is the protocol? The hosts roast his indecisiveness, reject mailing the photos to her parents as awkward, and advise filing them away or digitizing them. Secular's Advice suggests offering them to her family, or boxing them up for his children to deal with after he is gone — which the hosts mock as outsourcing the decision to the next generation.
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Holy Spirit experience: healing, cessationism, and testing the spirits
- Is there a normative experience of the Holy Spirit in the world today?
The central hard question: is there a normative experience of the Holy Spirit in the world today, and what does it mean for a follower of Jesus?
From No. 593 · Do You Hear What I Hear
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Dear LFTP 3: Mom's false teeth
- What should the family do with their late mother's false teeth?
Mike reads the letter: the family found their late mother's false teeth — creepy to keep, wrong to discard?
From No. 590 · Theodore Franco
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Dear LFTP: should I attend my murdered niece's funeral?
- Should I attend my murdered niece's funeral after thirty years of family estrangement?
Mike reads a letter from a woman estranged from her brother's family for thirty years whose niece was murdered by her husband in a murder-suicide.
From No. 587 · Coffee After Sunday
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Dear LFTP: AA member who witnessed a life-support withdrawal
- How do I come to terms with accidentally witnessing a fellow AA member's life-support withdrawal?
An AA member writes that while visiting a hospitalized fellow member with cookies, he arrived at the exact moment doctors withdrew life support and witnessed the family's raw grief; he now fears he intruded and caused harm.
From No. 568 · Like Jesus