Dear LFTP: are early guests rude?
- Is it rude for guests to show up 10 or more minutes early to a party?
A listener who hosts themed parties asks whether guests arriving 10+ minutes early are rude. The hosts say 10 minutes early is fine, the habitually late host should plan further ahead, and the early-arriving friend can wait in the car. The 'Secular' answer disagrees: arriving early is an imposition; good manners mean arriving at the appointed time.
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