Friendship
156 conversations where the hosts get into friendship.
156 conversations
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Dear LFTP: 'Maid of Honor Fails to Follow Shower Instructions'
- Who is in the wrong — the bride or the maid of honor who won't follow the shower instructions?
The second Dear LFTP letter, titled 'Maid of Honor Fails to Follow Shower Instructions' (not a bathing problem — a bridal shower problem): the bride was clear she didn't want a…
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: the $4,200 loan that never came back
- How do I get past the sadness over the $4,200 loan my friend never repaid — do I just let it go?
The final Dear LFTP letter: a year ago a supposed friend asked to borrow money — her husband had left the country to renew his visa, her car was repossessed, she had no way to get to work.
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the birthday-gift pressure
- My friends insist on giving me birthday presents I can't reciprocate. Shouldn't my wishes have been respected since it's my birthday?
Mike reads the first Dear LFTP letter: a part-time worker paying her own health insurance asked friends to skip presents at a triple birthday dinner; they refused, saying she needn't reciprocate.
From No. 601 · Humble Faithful Idiot
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Dear LFTP: the retired people-pleaser and her boundary-blurring friends
- How should a people-pleasing retired woman handle friends who ignore her 'I need advance notice' boundary?
Mike reads a letter from a single retired woman with a side business, frustrated by friends who invite her last-minute, get annoyed when she declines, and tie her up with 'utter nonsense' calls and texts despite her 'I need advance notice' replies.
From No. 597 · Maybe A Word From God
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Dear LFTP: the friend group's new wife
- How do we tell the husband that they are not invited, and who should deliver the message?
A host reads a second Dear LFTP letter: ten college-friend couples are planning a once-in-a-lifetime cruise, and nobody wants the remarried friend's demanding new wife on the ship.
From No. 592 · Because I Got High
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Dear LFTP #2: friends who always bring extra people
- How do we stop friends from inviting extra people to our gatherings?
Mike reads the second letter: dear friends who socialize a lot keep inviting extra people to gatherings at the listener's lake house — including, once, a passed-out stranger ('my coyote fell asleep on the couch').
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Dear LFTP 2: the college friend after 35 years
- Should the woman reconnect with the college friend after 35 years?
Mike reads the letter: three college girlfriends, one lost touch thirty-five years ago and is now reconnecting; the writer feels her loyal friends "deserve" her attention and the returner "has not been a good friend."
From No. 590 · Theodore Franco
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Dear LFTP 1: the burned-out friend
- How do I approach a long friendship that has become one-sided and draining when the friend has anxiety, depression, OCD, narcissism, and a drinking problem?
Ben reads a letter from a listener burned out by a decade-long friendship with someone suffering anxiety, depression, OCD, narcissism, and a drinking problem who never asks how the listener is doing.
From No. 588 · hypokritēs
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Dear LFTP: explaining an invisible disability
- How do I explain my invisible disability to friends who act like I'm making it up?
Mike reads a letter from a listener with polyneuropathy, seven back surgeries, and arthritis in every joint who lives in constant invisible pain and doesn't know how to explain it to friends who act like she's making it up.
From No. 585 · Split Ends | Interacting with other Denominations
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Dear LFTP: the $99 birthday bill and "Jesus always pays"
- Was it wrong to be taken aback when I was expected to split the cost of a friend's birthday dinner?
Mike reads a letter from a man invited to a friend's birthday dinner at a popular restaurant: after the birthday boy excused himself, the waiter presented the bill and the nine…
From No. 580 · Not Sure | Old Testament Law, Holy Spirit Guidance, Christian Discernment
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Dear LFTP: the canned-ham friend
- Should I tell off my condescending friend, and is there a good deadly one-liner?
Mike reads the first Dear LFTP letter (the ASR renders the greeting 'Dear liar from the past'): a woman down 50 pounds whose friend makes condescending comments about her weight…
From No. 577 · The Spirit, the Goldfish and the Way
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Dear LFTP: the wedding-gift cash and the missing thank-you
- Tell me, was I wrong? (wedding-gift cash and the missing thank-you note)
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman who gave $300 cash at a destination wedding by handing the envelope to a bartender, then asked her friend six months later whether the couple received it, and wonders if she was wrong to ask.
From No. 575 · Heartfelt Heresy
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Dear LFTP: Cindy's baby name ideas
- What should I do about my friend's terrible baby name choices?
Mike reads a letter from Dave about his longtime friend Cindy, six months pregnant, who keeps proposing names like chlamydia, bidet, chalet, and cliche because they sound pretty regardless of meaning.
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Dear LFTP: creepy Bob and the friend-group bar
- How should I handle friends who keep choosing the bar where the man who victimized me hangs out?
A widowed listener asks how to handle friends who keep choosing a restaurant where "Bob," the man who broke into her home twenty years ago, hangs out.
From No. 572 · Rippin’ Heaters
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Dear LFTP: ending a friendship or ghosting the young couple
- Should I ghost an unwanted friendship or tell them honestly I want to end it?
A listener wants to end a relationship with a younger couple who guilt-tripped them into visits, now with toddlers she dislikes; her husband disagrees and wants to keep up the charade.
From No. 568 · Like Jesus
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Dear LFTP: long friendship broken by a theft accusation
- Are we oversensitive to feel insulted and end a long friendship after a theft accusation without an apology?
A letter asks whether the writers are oversensitive: friends of many years apparently think they stole items from their house, say it is in the past and they have forgiven them, but offered no apology, and the writers can no longer be friends.
From No. 562 · Enter the McCormick II
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Dear LFTP: the friend who never stops talking
- How do you handle a friend who never stops talking?
Mike reads the letter: a longtime friend hijacks every conversation, oblivious to verbal/body cues, and the writer leaves gatherings angry.
From No. 561 · The Answer is Liverpool
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Dear LFTP: unrequited love and the wedding speech
- Am I wrong for settling for our amazing friendship, and how can I convince my best friend we could be more without losing her?
- Should I write and give a toast at my sister's wedding even though she chose not to have a bridal party?
Ben reads three listener letters and the room gives advice. Letter one: a man who fell in love with his best friend ten years ago, was distanced, reconnected recently, still loves…
From No. 555 · The Aslan Wears Prada
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Dear LFTP: the aggressively negative colleague
- Should I make excuses or be honest with a negative, aggressive friend?
Mike reads the third Dear LFTP letter: a listener reconnected with a former colleague who has become negative, aggressive, and angry — bashing family, colleagues, and service workers, and refusing to stop talking politics.
From No. 554 · The Simple Life
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Dear LFTP: the GoFundMe for a friend with cancer
- How do I balance my friendship with my moral compass regarding the GoFundMe I set up?
A Dear LFTP letter: the writer set up a GoFundMe for a close friend diagnosed with breast cancer who has always been impulsive with money (gambling, cruises, fancy restaurants)…
From No. 552 · Affirming the Nasty Part
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Dear LFTP: the South Carolina babysitting letter
- Should I visit my friend in South Carolina if I'll be expected to babysit grandchildren I don't want to watch?
Mike reads the single Dear LFTP letter: a woman invited for a long weekend at her friend's new South Carolina home, with a still-unhealed sprained ankle, balks when the friend…
From No. 548 · Artificial Holy Spirit Intelligence
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Dear LFTP: paying a favor forward
- Is there a rule of etiquette that says you should pay a favor forward instead of repaying it to the person who helped you?
Mike (speaker-1) reads the first Dear LFTP letter (addressed 'Dear Life on the Path'): a listener gave a coworker rides to and from work for six months, then heard through another…
From No. 546 · For God or With God
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Dear LFTP: should we tell Julia about the affair?
- Our friend is having an affair with our best friend's husband — should we tell her?
A listener letter: their friend Carrie revealed she has been having an affair with her best friend Julia's husband for years; their kids are best friends and take family vacations together.
From No. 545 · By Invitation Only