Dear LFTP: I don't like me
- I don't like myself and I'm sick of being told to just be myself — what should I do?
The show reads a Dear LFTP letter from a self-conscious listener: 'I have a problem. Basically, I don't like me.' The writer is sick of the advice to 'just be myself' because he doesn't like himself, and feels his friends are all beautiful, witty, or kind while he is none of those. The hosts respond: find worth in the fact that Christ died for you — you were worth dying for in His eyes, and the prerequisite wasn't beauty or wealth. Sean Covington adds the first step is getting into a community of believers, citing Chip Ingram's teaching on Romans 12 and the body of Christ — you need people to show you your worth. Another host warns against self-loathing as self-obsession: stop being your own worst enemy and think about helping others. They roast some shallow advice (comb your hair, be a good listener, keep lesser-talented company, Spanx, comparing Tom Hanks vs. Ben Affleck) before landing on identity as a son of the King. The KTIA radio audience is dismissed mid-segment.
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Dear LFTP 2: the neighbors' piling newspapers
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Dear LFTP: Martha, John, and Jerry
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