Dear LFTP: should I write the custody-battle reference letter?
- Should I write the reference letter for the acquaintance in the custody battle when I didn't witness her change and doubt her parenting?
Boova (speaker-0) reads the letter from 'Acquaintance in Georgia': a female acquaintance asked her repeatedly for a recommendation letter for a custody battle — she was sober over a year after past drug and alcohol problems, but the writer didn't witness the change and finds her parenting questionable. The hosts' advice: be honest — write only what you actually observed and let her decide whether to submit it. Dan (speaker-3) recounts being grilled by an attorney in a similar case and says to report observations, not verdicts. The secular answer (decline and don't mention the parenting doubts to preserve the relationship) is read and called 'terrible advice.'
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Dear LFTP: explaining an invisible disability
- How do I explain my invisible disability to friends who act like I'm making it up?
Mike reads a letter from a listener with polyneuropathy, seven back surgeries, and arthritis in every joint who lives in constant invisible pain and doesn't know how to explain it to friends who act like she's making it up.
From No. 585 · Split Ends | Interacting with other Denominations
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Dear LFTP: ending a friendship or ghosting the young couple
- Should I ghost an unwanted friendship or tell them honestly I want to end it?
A listener wants to end a relationship with a younger couple who guilt-tripped them into visits, now with toddlers she dislikes; her husband disagrees and wants to keep up the charade.
From No. 568 · Like Jesus
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Dear LFTP: the boyfriend's uncomfortably hard bed and couch
- How do I tell my boyfriend his expensive bed and couch are too uncomfortable to sleep on?
A host hands the advice segment to Mike ("Alright. Mike, let's give some advice") and a host reads the Dear LFTP letter: a woman in a tumultuous-but-currently-good relationship…
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Dear LFTP: the aggressively negative colleague
- Should I make excuses or be honest with a negative, aggressive friend?
Mike reads the third Dear LFTP letter: a listener reconnected with a former colleague who has become negative, aggressive, and angry — bashing family, colleagues, and service workers, and refusing to stop talking politics.
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