Honesty
177 conversations where the hosts get into honesty.
177 conversations
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Dear LFTP: explaining an invisible disability
- How do I explain my invisible disability to friends who act like I'm making it up?
Mike reads a letter from a listener with polyneuropathy, seven back surgeries, and arthritis in every joint who lives in constant invisible pain and doesn't know how to explain it to friends who act like she's making it up.
From No. 585 · Split Ends | Interacting with other Denominations
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Dear LFTP: ending a friendship or ghosting the young couple
- Should I ghost an unwanted friendship or tell them honestly I want to end it?
A listener wants to end a relationship with a younger couple who guilt-tripped them into visits, now with toddlers she dislikes; her husband disagrees and wants to keep up the charade.
From No. 568 · Like Jesus
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Dear LFTP: the boyfriend's uncomfortably hard bed and couch
- How do I tell my boyfriend his expensive bed and couch are too uncomfortable to sleep on?
A host hands the advice segment to Mike ("Alright. Mike, let's give some advice") and a host reads the Dear LFTP letter: a woman in a tumultuous-but-currently-good relationship…
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Dear LFTP: the aggressively negative colleague
- Should I make excuses or be honest with a negative, aggressive friend?
Mike reads the third Dear LFTP letter: a listener reconnected with a former colleague who has become negative, aggressive, and angry — bashing family, colleagues, and service workers, and refusing to stop talking politics.
From No. 554 · The Simple Life
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Dear LFTP: the South Carolina babysitting letter
- Should I visit my friend in South Carolina if I'll be expected to babysit grandchildren I don't want to watch?
Mike reads the single Dear LFTP letter: a woman invited for a long weekend at her friend's new South Carolina home, with a still-unhealed sprained ankle, balks when the friend…
From No. 548 · Artificial Holy Spirit Intelligence
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Dear LFTP: the retired couple and the widow's dinner
- Is it rude to decline a neighbor's dinner invitation, and is there a more polite way than an excuse?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a retired couple befriended by a widowed neighbor: invited to dinner with her sister and brother-in-law, the wife, an introvert with anxiety, does not want to go and considers blaming her husband as an excuse.
From No. 539 · Birdcage
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Am I the Donkeys Behind? The sister-in-law's Airbnb
- Am I the donkey's behind for canceling the sister-in-law's Airbnb trip?
- Should the letter writer just suck it up and go on the Airbnb vacation?
The guest reads the first 'Am I the Donkeys Behind?' letter: a woman whose sister-in-law booked a three-bedroom Airbnb for a joint vacation, split half-and-half, but the boyfriend…
From No. 536 · The Olympic Supper Club
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Dear LFTP: bugs at my sister's house
- How do I tell my sister her house has bugs without hurting her feelings?
A listener staying at her sister's home wakes to crawling sensations and buzzing, with insects in her hair, and asks how to decline the next visit without hurting her sister's feelings.
From No. 512 · She Knows, Right?
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Dear LFTP: grandma versus the lying granddaughter
- My 14-year-old granddaughter lies to me with a straight face for fun — what should I do?
A grandmother writes that her 14-year-old granddaughter lies to her with a straight face for fun — claiming a Hawaii trip, then Tourette's — which stung extra because the grandmother had epilepsy as a teen.
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Dear LFTP: the milquetoast boyfriends
- How can I be less critical of my daughter's milquetoast boyfriends, and how do I respond tactfully when she asks my impression?
A listener writes asking for an attitude adjustment: their athletic, type-A daughter in her thirties dates men the parent calls 'wussy, milquetoast, dead-fish-handshake…
From No. 501 · All Five Sentences
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Dear LFTP: how to tell an adult son he smells
- How do you tell a loved one they have bad hygiene — tell them or let them stink?
A host reads a Dear LFTP letter from a mother whose adult son has bad body odor — not medical, not from exercise — asking whether to tell him or let him stink; the verdict is tell him.
From No. 492 · Show Me The Toes
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Dear LFTP: friends who want online reviews of a dishonest book and a bad CD
- How do I handle friends' requests for online reviews of a dishonest book and a bad CD?
A listener is asked to review a friend's divorce book that gossips untruthfully about her ex (hiding that she committed the adultery) and a friend's music CD she can't enjoy.
From No. 468 · Turned Over Not Over
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Dear LFTP: living with a lying spouse
- How do I live with a lying spouse?
A listener writes that after seven-plus years her husband lies to avoid conflict — especially about his 'female friends' and wandering eye — and after thirty-one years together she questions whether their whole marriage was built on lies.
From No. 465 · Cults May Be Wonderful
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Dear LFTP: the shoplifting friend, and outro
- Should I reach out to my shoplifting friend and suggest friendship without shopping, restaurants, or music?
The final letter: a listener said goodbye to a twenty-year friend after catching her shoplifting once and noticing she doesn't tip, then catching her sneaking into a musical event — and asks whether to suggest walks-only hangouts.
From No. 465 · Cults May Be Wonderful
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Dear LFTP: husband lost the ability to perform, five years of hurt remarks
- Dear LFTP: what do I do about a husband who lost the ability to perform and turns every remark into a sexual insult?
The second letter: a woman married 35 years says her husband lost the ability to perform sexually five years ago; he turns every remark of hers into one about sex and her feelings are often hurt.
From No. 464 · Buying International Locusts
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What stops us from sharing the gospel
- Should church-service outreach and personal-life evangelism be treated differently?
- What are our biggest hangups in creating opportunities to talk about the gospel?
The hosts catalog the hangups that keep Christians from creating gospel opportunities at work and in clubs: fear of people's reactions, not knowing the right thing to say, worry…
From No. 456 · Just Do It
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Dear LFTP: ex-girlfriend's holiday cards
- How do I respectfully tell my ex-girlfriend to stop sending me holiday cards?
A letter writer, together with his wife for six years and married for two, asks how to respectfully tell his ex-girlfriend from high school to stop sending holiday cards now that they make his wife uncomfortable.
From No. 456 · Just Do It
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Dear LFTP: the pet-sitter and the filthy house
- How do I tell a friend her house is too filthy to pet-sit in?
A listener who pet-sits for "Whitney" dreads her increasingly filthy house and asks how to broach it.
From No. 452 · False Teachers and Freeloaders
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Dear LFTP: the 4'11" man and the dating-site height filter
- Should I lie about my height on dating profiles since the algorithm filters me out?
- Am I destined to spend my life alone because of my height?
A letter from a man in his late forties, 4'11", who asks whether he should lie about his height on dating profiles since the algorithm always returns 'no match.'
From No. 444 · Fake Persecution and Tripping Millennials
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Dear LFTP: writing the ex after 36 years of silence
- Divorced 36 years with no contact — should I write my ex hoping it benefits our 44-year-old son?
A listener divorced 36 years (son now 44, no contact with the ex since) asks whether to write asking to talk, hoping it would make her son happy.
From No. 443 · Cry Me A River…Then Build A Bridge
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Dear LFTP: the one that got away
- Should I tell the woman I have loved for years how I feel, or stay in limbo?
The episode's Dear LFTP letter comes from a man who has grown close over two years to the woman he was involved with twenty years ago, "the one that got away," now a single mother, and feels stuck in limbo.
From No. 438 · Acting When God Speaks
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Dear LFTP: quitting the job without calling out the boss
- How can I quit my job and exit without calling out my bad boss as the reason for leaving?
A second letter: a man at a small Colorado company is quitting soon to live simply and asks how to exit without naming his boss as the reason when asked.
From No. 427 · Wasting Time & Leaving Christianity
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Dear LFTP: grandmother's elderly-catalog clothes for the teenage daughters
- My mother buys us clothes we don't wear — should I speak up or quietly keep donating them?
A Dear LFTP letter from a woman whose mother keeps buying her and her teenage daughters elderly-woman catalog clothes (bird prints, florals, elastic waist pants); they donate them but don't want to hurt her feelings.
From No. 426 · Confidence in the Holy Spirit
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Dear LFTP: must I keep disclosing my diagnosis?
- Must I keep disclosing my STI diagnosis to potential partners?
A woman in her sixties who has managed a lifelong STI with daily medication asks whether she must keep disclosing it to potential partners after decades of rejection.
From No. 405 · Reading Revelation Wrong