Dear LFTP: the picky-husband lunch saga
- What should a wife do about a husband whose lunch demands keep changing while he overspends on takeout?
The Dear LFTP letter comes from a stay-at-home wife whose husband demands a packed lunch every day — with a breakfast item and a lunch item — plus an ever-changing list of picky preferences (no sandwiches, no spaghetti with twisted noodles, no too many peppers), yet refuses to pack his own and overspends on takeout if she doesn't. One host tells a Ron Swanson-esque story of ordering 'all of the breakfast' at Taco Bell for $18. Advice ranges from blunt ('deal with what she gives you or make your own') to a comic roleplay of the marital standoff, to the serious point that the husband needs accountability from male friends who will 'take him to the woodshed.' Mary Wastee gives the woman's-perspective answer: she feels disvalued and treated like a vending machine, and should give him the 'straight dope' biblically, walking through Proverbs 31. The Secular answer suggests having the husband help with weekend marketing and packing labeled containers with lean protein.
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Telling your spouse about past sin: pornography, the granola bar, and the Holy Spirit
- If you have repented of a sin your spouse never knew about, do you have to tell them?
The hosts work through whether a repented-of sin a spouse never knew about must be confessed: a pornography habit versus a stolen granola bar from fifteen years ago.
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Feeling spiritually meh: causes, experiences, and ways through
- Have you ever felt spiritually meh, what does it feel like, and how do you get out of it?
The main discussion: what it means to feel "spiritually meh" — not rebelling against God, but not wanting to do the prayer, Bible reading, and other connecting practices you know are good.
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What does it mean to make disciples
- What does it mean to make disciples — is it just giving information, or does it involve accountability and structure?
The hosts take up the third topic: two extremes of disciple-making. On one side, being only an information provider and leaving everything to the Spirit; on the other, running…
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