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Dear LFTP March 9, 2015 · 59:12 · 6 min

Dear LFTP: 'Overheated' and the heated mattress

  • My husband's heated mattress roasts me every night — should we move to separate beds?

Dear LFTP letter from 'Overheated,' a 48-year-old woman with night sweats and hot flashes whose husband runs a heated mattress, turns her side on by mistake, and sleeps naked with all his covers flipped onto her. She is considering separate beds. The hosts call the husband selfish and urge a real conversation and compromise (separate blankets, moderation) before separate beds. Dan (named in the audio) offers health advice about vitamin B for hot flashes. The 'secular answer' is read: separate beds are practical, but she should talk to her doctor since the flashes may be hormonal.

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