Dear LFTP: boyfriend invited his sister on the couple's vacation
- Am I overreacting that my boyfriend invited his sister and her boyfriend on our first vacation without asking me?
A listener's boyfriend invited his sister and her boyfriend to their planned first vacation together, expecting them to stay free without checking with her first. The hosts advise talking it out rather than deciding rashly: the vacation's nature changed, which is understandable to be upset about; communication patterns matter more than this one decision; and one host suggests the sister's presence actually guards an unmarried couple. The Secular answer: clear the invite first, explain the romance is gone, don't foot the bill, and cancel if he won't budge — plus 'hit him with your purse,' which the hosts say goes too far.
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