Dear LFTP: mother-in-law's boyfriend sharing a room

• How do I handle my widowed mother-in-law bringing her boyfriend on a visit — can they share a room in my home?

A Dear LFTP letter from a woman in Michigan whose widowed mother-in-law in South Carolina is dating a man she wants to bring on her next visit: the writer does not want the unmarried couple sharing a room in her home with her 10- and 13-year-old boys. The hosts debate whether refusing is legislating morality by bedroom location — one host says he would not facilitate it in his house but would not make a scene over a hotel or motorhome, another argues you cannot legislate morality through bed placement. They test the principle with analogies (a meth addict's Sudafed, stranded strangers, swingers and exhibitionists) and land on a split: in your own home you set the rules, and everyone is really just picking which sins they care about. The 'Secular' answer: offer to make hotel reservations for the couple.